If my DH asked me to forgive SS30 I would readily agree. But that would NOT mean that SS is not still a worthless POS. And it would not mean that I ever wanted him in my life.

A person could forgive someone who raped them - but that does not mean they would want to start hanging out with them.

If he is truly embracing and practising forgiveness then he should be forgiving you for not accepting his children the way he wants you to.
Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves, not something we force on others.

Please don't misunderstand, You don't need his forgiveness. I'm saying that while he says he's found forgiveness, he isn't truly practising it.
He's using it as a tool to attempt to manipulate you.

You need to ask him what his definition of forgiveness is.
A. To give up resentment or anger
B. To pardon an offence; to stop seeking punishment or recompense

I think for him it means B but he's telling you it means A.
You can always tell him that you can work on A but that you are not ready to entertain the idea of B.

Why do we wind up the bad guys?? I was thinking about this today. I read somewhere that in divorces with children someone has to be the target and it usually winds up the step parent get that honor. After years of the BMs crap and 3 self centered Skids, my DH is in the throws of his love fest and has taken to lash out at me if i say anything. Some very smart people on this site have helped me as follows:
Do nothing, expect nothing/Do not get manipulated into discussions with DH/Change the topic immediately/Avoid any discussions about them hardly mention their names if at all. Good luck.

I don't understand how I can forgive someone when they haven't asked me to forgive them!? Personally, I think "forgiving" someone that hasn't asked for forgiveness cheapens and degrades the sometimes seriousness of this very personal interaction. KWIM??

This is what I choose to do with people that have intentionally harmed me but have not asked for my forgiveness. I process what's been done to me, learn from the experience, and then let go of all those negative emotions. The negative emotions take up dampen my happiness and joy. Letting go, for me, means I no longer feel animosity towards the person who offended me. But, just because I let go of the person and the negativity it brought to my life does not mean I want to hang out with the offender and become buddies. I have dignity.

Do you feel you have let go of his daughters?

Forgiveness seems to have a different definition for people. Some people seem to think it will set you free. I've tried this and it doesn't work for me. I said "Sorry" to some people recently and afterward wondered why in he heck I did it. It did not make me feel any better about these people OR myself. In fact it caused more frustration and anger because THEY should have been the ones to ask for MY forgiveness - and they didn't.

So does your DH expect the skids to ask for your forgiveness too? If I was in your place I would respond to DH, "Maybe you should be approaching your children about this. After all, we are all adults, right?"

One thing though: If he wants to talk to them in the driveway or in the basement let it go as long as it does not interfere with an important event or takes a lot of time away from 'together' time. At least you don't have to be bothered with them personally.

He doesn't want you to "forgive" them, he wants you to be a doormat and go along with him and the skids agenda.

You can forgive while still remembering the wounds that were inflicted; and be a strong woman instead of a martyr.
Forgive yourself for putting up with their sh*t for so long. If his definition of forgiveness is that you must be victimized and accept their behavior all over again, then take a pass.