YOU ARE SMART COOKIE! Yep to all the above. We were left out of all the marriage plans etc...She sprang it on him and expected us to be here. All the while paying attention to her mom and the man her mom cheated on her BD. Danced at the wedding with the cheater and left my fiancé out in the dark. Yes, her mom lets her do anything. Now she doesn't work, sits on the couch posting to FB all day and then hints to everyone on FB what she "wishes she had" I told her I wish you'd get a job! I have single mother friends who have several jobs and 2 kids. I have blocked her from everything.

Yes, fiancé and I got into a little bit of a row since he said she's an adult and disciplining her will not work. I said you BETTER discipline her for disrespecting me or you can go back to where you came and she can have your ass.

All I know is cutting the brat off now means less time, money and heartache in the future for me. I'm too old to care! She can go to her mom, new stepdad and her own two hands and legs to work. Yeah, she has no job and brags shes a stay at home mom. Then blames my fiancé for not getting her money so she can pass a test and support her family and how dare he prevent her from doing that. I said GET A JOB BITCH! Get off your facebook posting ass and work! So over it. Maybe I sound evil, but I've lived thru 5 years of hell and misery and now that I'm finally finding happiness at almost 50, I aint letting her steal it. Good riddens!

The good news is I don't care nor want to know his grandkids. I'm happy being alone, peaceful and left out of their family reunions. I told him this. I'm nearly 50 and I don't need to succumb to feeling good about myself because I'm visiting skids with sgkids. I've had a hell of a lot of pain and suffering in my life and now, I'm living it for me. Yes, thank the lord they are 7000 miles away. They aren't welcomed at our home which I own and pay for. Also airtight prenup and postnup. No way his brats are gonna get anything. My niece is my angel and it goes to her.

Thanks! My mother RIP, always said the moment its bad, cut it out like a cancer or you will get cancer. Thanks Mom! That's what I did. That being said, I do give kudos to the lovely folks on here and you all are very lovely, loving people to put up with crap for YEARS I'm thinking you have. You have big hearts and a lot of patience and I salute you. That's more than I can say about myself. God bless you all and thank god I found this forum. I thought who the heck would I talk to about this without sounding evil but I didn't throw the first punch and it's her loss, not mine!

We all need each other. I am glad for this blog. The bottom line is I think everyone is too nice to these damn SKIDS. They get away with murder or try to, extort money by making folks feel guilty and generally take what they can get or get away with. I'm crazy in that I don't care what the hell they think or others. Yes, I need to vent and it's helpful to know I'm not alone. But I honestly do not care about spoiled adult Skids when they are disrespectful. I end it there. I never spoke to my parents that way or any elders. They reap what they sow.

THANK YOU for this! I totally agree with you. My row with the spoiled brat had a negative effect on me - I am human and it pissed me off to no end and me and the fiancé got into as he at first refused to stick up for me by saying I stuck up for myself. Gave him his walking papers told him go back to your gold digging daughter and your sad little life before you met me. Nobody appreciated you and you KNOW it! Now that she can't have you she's trying to play you. Ain't gonna work - today, I told him you can think what you want - she's done the damage HERSELF and started it. It's her loss, she's 22 and doesn't know dick. I will be 49 and I'm not engaging in anything to do with her or her life. He asked me what about the step grand kids - I said HELLLLLLLLLLLLLL no. I don't know your own damn daughter, I want NOTHInG to do with them either - brats just like her. IF he doesn't like it he can step. HE aint the only horse in the stable and I worked far too hard for my life to get where it is to let a bratty bitch get to me.

I need to re-read your passage here and I'm printing it out so I never again engage. I've had a lot of tragedy and loss in my life and she doesn't deserve to steal my joy. She's DEAD to me. PEriod. I really wish others understand and stick up for yourselves. These punks think they can demand, talk to you like a POS and its ok? Well, there are ramifications for these actions. I told fiancé go ahead and spend time with them - I won't and don't EVER ask me to again. Also don't use any of our money - use your money. They aren't welcomed at our home and never will be. If you don't like it - choose your gold digger disrespectful daughter - leave!!

I just don't care. I am a good person, but the bitch stepped over the line. Good riddens her loss. I come first and that's the way it should be for all of you. SKIDS DO NOT COME FIRST!

NEVER let adult skidmarks who treat you like crap back into your life when it suits them. I'm not a mother either and knew it wasn't in the cards for me, although I did have a precious dog and he WAS MY CHILD! Therefore, I could care less about gskids. I was appalled that she would come at me that way, but sanity kicked in and I it felt sooooooooooooooo good to tell her F OFF!!! I don't give a shit about you - stay away from me stay away from my family and it's good. Lose my name, number and pretend we never met. Now F OFF See YA!

Ladies remember it is THEIR LOSS THEIR CHOICE to behave this way - this does not mean you need to keep taking it up the butt - once they think they can control you its OVER. Make sure you can support yourselves and leave if you need to. NOBODY is worth your happiness and health. Nobody!! Especially these moochers who suck you dry mentally, spiritually and TRY to financially.

I'm making sure I have an airtight pre nuptial agreement and post nuptial agreement making damn sure there is NOTHING going to the skids or gskids. Make your own money you damn brat! She once hinted about us funding her kids college funds - WTF!? LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOO!! Glad she's outta my life! Hell would need to freeze over and turn into an ice cream parlor with a merry go around before that happened.

I think we all initially want to be optimistic etc...but then reality bites you in the ass because you realize you never had a chance with these Adultskid marks. I'm sorry you had it so bad. Going forward tell these idiots off. By the way, when her mom was cheating on her dad, and he was working daily to support them and he finally gave up and wanted to end his life, she ACTUALLY GOT ANGRY that he wrecked her birthday by trying to commit suicide and ended up in the hospital because of depression!! THIS is what he is going back to if he doesn't stand up to the brat. I will tear her apart limb from limb before that happens. I Told her to stay the F**K away from me and my family and I will happily do the same!

My to be Adult SD is DEAD to me. I told her we don't owe her shit. Stop ordering me around cuz I aint your mama and I could give a shit less about her. Disrespect got her cut off. And yeah,she doesn't work- I guess Facebook takes up too much of her precious time.

Thanks! I've been thru so much hell in the last 5 years, I don't need someone I'm not related to adding to it. I read these posts where I feel so bad for some of the women on here trying so hard. These adult skidmarks are just not worth it. After awhile you have to just cut them off. Life is too short.