She already had a cheap vacuum, she wanted a better one. DH came with me, but i am the one that researched ahead of time all the makes and models, read the reviews and shopped on-line for the best price and found which store had the best price. I picked it out, he doesn't do shopping, especially for household appliances.

She was stone cold serious. Anyone that has read my posts on here over the last three years knows this is her typical method of operation.

I assume that the book is probably suggestions for places the two of them can go together for daddy/daughter time. :?
The problem is, DH feels awkward taking her on the same kind of dates that he takes me, but that IS what she wants. She wants to insert him in the void that she is experiencing from not having a romantic interest in her life.

I'm sorry but it just can't be done.,......shouldn't be done.
DH has always encouraged her to seek out a relationship with a real boyfriend. Unfortunately, no one seems to want to date her.
We finally convinced her to go on a dating website to meet a suitable boyfriend, but so far no one has been knocking down her door for a date.

Yeah ewww. I'm sure she was hoping that you would read that post. Grandstanding and in your face as it was.

She wants a regular activity partner and maybe the enjoyment of stealing him away from me in the evenings.

Not any physical relationship I'm sure. In fact, I heard from DH that her marriage had problems because she actually didn't like sex. She confessed that to her mom when she was a newlywed.

I'm sure she wants to go back to her childhood. She wants to feel special and have male companionship. She has an unusual fixation on a married boss at her work too. Yuck.

That night when we got home, after DH had gone to bed, i snooped in his stack of Christmas gifts (like any good wife would do, right? but only because i found that gift to be disturbing and wanted to, I guess, satisfy my morbid curiosity of what was actually in it.
I could not find the book in any of his boxes.

He opened it up, read the title out loud. Moment of silence around the room and then I incredulously repeated the title to him and asked "is that really in the book?" I couldn't believe my ears and no one said another word about it. He moved on to open his next gift . I'm pretty sure he was embarrassed at my obvious embarrassment.

She was the one hosting the party at her place. I couldn't leave because DH's grandchildren (her nieces) were still there opening their gifts from us.

I think that book is just one more example of her disrespecting the marriage between DH and I.

Well, he's never taken her out on these daddy/daughter dates before. I'm sure he feels sorry for her and doesn't know how to fix her problems. He's between a rock and a hard place for sure.

In the past when she suggested outings that were just the two of them, he rejected the idea, except for the occasional trip to her place to do some repairs around her house. Unfortunately, the last time she lured him over there with the pretense of doing home repairs, she made a date out of it. Had him take her to lunch, go all over town with him shopping for a couch, then made him dinner back at her place and it ended up being an all day thing until 9 p.m. when he finally got home. I ended up eating dinner at a drive-thru fast food alone, not wanting to cook for just myself. i'm thinking what is wrong with this picture?

My son would never expect me to go on a dinner date with him leaving my husband at home alone to fend for himself. Both of my sons invite us over for dinner as a married couple. They never try to exclude DH, quite the contrary. They know and accept that we are a couple.

She's never respected boundaries and that in a nutshell is how I came to dislike her company.
I don't want to ruin our New Years by bringing up a sore subject with DH. She likes to make trouble between us and I'm not going to give her the satisfaction of causing a fight on New Years.

If DH is smart, that book never made it into our home and will never see the light of day again. He hasn't said a single word about it since that night .

LOL.

I did see a book that I wanted by buy her for Christmas. A book about taking responsibility for her own life and happiness. When I suggested it, DH was afraid it would hurt her feelings.

Great advice. Thank you. I always appreciate talking to the ladies on here.
It helps to vent and hear things from your perspectives.

Yes, the vacation will do us both good, and I have an even better plan for when we get back.

I tried googling it myself and had no luck.

The authors name and the exact title will probably pull it up. If I can find that information, I will post it on here, but right now the book is suspiciously missing in action.

My guess is that he purposely left it behind (that sends SD a message) or he is hiding it somewhere in our home knowing that it would be fuel for an argument to read it in front of me. Time will tell.

After New Years I plan to bring up the subject, but right now I'm declaring a New Year's truce. We are supposed to go to a party today and I don't want SD 's book causing a wedge. (which is exactly what she probably intended).