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Help!! Need Sugestions On Dealing With oldest SD

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Submitted by steverocks63 on Sun, 08/30/2015 - 12:12am

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Teenage Stepchildren

I recently moved in with my gf and her 3 children. For the most part things have been ok but lately her oldest daughter who is 16 hasn't been talking to me at all. She was a friendly and affectionate person but suddenly she won't give me the time of day. She'll only talk to me if i talk to her first.
I don't know what i have done for her to act like this. I've made some mistakes at first, basically trying to do everything her bio father hasn't done and everything that i felt i needed to do. Sometimes i feel like they are all together and I'm adrift off to the side. I've asked her if there is something wrong and she's did no. Am i just being too sensitive to the whole situation or has others here dealt with this as well? Any input would be great!!!!

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Submitted by Rags on Sun, 08/30/2015 - 5:06am

I think that there are two ways to deal with this. Either go in to teeth pulling mode and dig for the facts and truth ... or .... shrug it off, write it off to hormonal teen angst and enjoy that it is not causing any major issues.

As your focus should be on the relationship with your GF I would go with the second tactic.

Good luck.

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Submitted by stepinafrica on Sun, 08/30/2015 - 5:10am

You are trying too hard. She is a kid. You do need to be kind to her, but when you go acting like you desperately need her approval you give her too much power. Good luck.
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Submitted by over step on Mon, 08/31/2015 - 2:43pm

It's best you let it be and not try so hard. I learned that lesson. You may never know what happened or maybe nothing happened. Either way if she doesn't want to talk to or be around you don't force it. Go on as business as usual and don't get caught in her drama.