I need advise. My husband and I dated for 2 1/2 years before marrying and have been married for 1 1/2. He has two daughters ages 8 & 5. I have 3 ages 5,7,9. All girls. He has custody so they all 5 are with us Monday thru Friday. He is a wonderful daddy who is wry involved in all 5 girls lives. We both try to stick together when dealing with discipline and arguments and kid drama. At first his 5 year old, age 3 at the time, was the one who resented me. Wanted her mom an dad back together. I understand that emotion having three of my own. That has leveled out basically. Lately the problem has been with the oldest who is 8. She has became very angry with me. When I get onto the kids I get onto everyone involved. Which is generally a she said/she said fight. I pull everyone involved aside and try to find out by asking questions before dealing out the discipline. That hasn't changed. Its always been that way. Lately if I ask her anything it's I just want to not be talked to, I hate you being my stepmother, I can't stand you, can't you leave me alone, those kinds of comments. I am met with hatefulness from the time she gets out of bed. Getting her up in the morning until the end of the day she gives me cold looks. I don't understand what I have done and when I ask she just gets mad cause I talk to her. Her dad got onto her the other night because she finally did it in front of him but it hasn't helped. She is just more careful when she does it. They see their mom every weekend and I don't know if she's saying anything all I know is she says she can do whatever she wants there. When we ask if she wants to live there she says no she just wants me to leave. She tells me my daddy isn't happy with you, he tells her he is. It's a constant angry battle. I'm lost. I've tried the sweet sensitive and the stern. Help?!?