2 New Rules. Post them on the dryer door so nobody forgets.

All children's dirty laundry stays in the bedroom. Yes they are second class citizens.

A dried laundry load left in the dryer is tossed on the wash room floor if someone else needs the dryer. Same with the washer. Careful with this one and set your alarm to get your stuff out right on time.

What's the hurry with crib?

What kid says to Dad is Dad's problem - if Dad were here I'd have told him to tell the kid to stay at BM's as he's not staying with me with a mouth like that. I sassed my Dad only one time and it resulted in a gentle right hook to the jaw, this by a ex Golden Gloves boxer.

I don't understand these mealy brained parents that put up with stuff like that.

You don't need your husbands support, you're a voting member of the house, become such a bitch to these kids that they either shape up or ship out. If husband starts to blame you cop him the same attitude. You will be a doormat as long as you're lying down.

I stopped doing the skids laundry when they were teens. They can do it. My husband used to "feel sorry for them" and do it. But that was on him. I used to love taking their wet laundry that they left in washer and put in basket so I could do mine. It used to get pretty smelly and they would have to start all over. I know they hoped I would just throw it in dryer, nope.
If they get $100/week for allowance then you can afford to have your other nursery items shipped and pay to have someone put everything together.
I just started putting money aside in a special account for my kids every time my DH spends on his kid. I think if they can treat DH as shitty as they do, and they get very expensive gifts, trips,...then my kids will get that later on as well. The difference is that they will never treat me like that if they want things.
Good luck!

I used to do my SS17 laundry and ironing.

He also used to change his clothes 3 times a day.... No shower... Just change clothes cos he had so many that he couldn't choose.
So all the clothes including the pressed clothes that I stood and did ended up back in the laundry basket for me to deal with because he was too lazy to hang them up.

I bought him his own iron and ironing board which I told him to keep in his room. I gave him a black bin sack and told him to put dirty laundry in there in his room until he wanted it done. If he wanted it washed, to give himself a whole evening to deal with it once washed. If he went out, I put the washed laundry back in the black sack and put it outside his bedroom door including his washed sheets. They never get dirty on his bed, just from being thrown on the floor because he is quite happy to sleep on a bare mattress which is now black!

He never got an allowance. He was given endless amounts of cash from DH just to get him to piss off and give him peace.
I invented a list of jobs that I hated doing.
He got £1.00 for every 15 minute job and I ticked the job on the list after checking it was done right. He had the choice of doing that or get himself a job.
His dad and me worked hard for the money was getting (before the list) so why should he get it for nothing.
I convinced his dad that it was good parenting to make somebody his age work for money.

I also took £1.00 out of what he earned if he went out and left his TV etc on and explained its to cover the excessive electric bills. He soon learned to switch them off.

You should spray your blanket heavily in perfume and see if he likes to use it then or just hide all blankets so as not to encourage him lazing around..... The lazy little shit.

i dont care if you are wealthy and can afford it - $100 a week for a kid is asking for trouble.

when i was in college, i knew a kid that got $500 a week sent to him from his father for "spending and incendentals". do you know what this kid did that with that money? He started a drug dealing business right out of his dorm room.

I only do the skids laundry if they put it in the laundry basket. My DH told them any clothing left on the floor when the house is vacuumed (LR and 2 BRs) goes into the trash. Each skids lost socks and almost new tshirts this weekend. I didn't do it - DH did!

If I vacuumed, I used to throw everything from the floor onto SS bed including stinking socks, guitars, loose change... Everything. He had to put it all away before he could go to bed.

I have the same experience as you except they aren't skids; they are my kids! All boys ages 11, 15 and 16. I put the folded, clean clothes on the stairs. All nicely folded, no wrinkles ( I used to iron but gave up when I learned that they would jam the clothes into any drawer they could find). They walk over the clean clothes in the stairs, risking twisting an ankle to avoid taking their clothes, lovingly folded by mom. My husband does a lot of their laundry too. He is not happy. I caught my younger taking clean clothes and (get this) when he's too lazy to put then away---he puts them in the dirty clothes!!!! I figured this out when we were doing 6 loads of laundry a week and I founded folded clothes in the hamper. Well, we are moving this week. Things are going to change.

Sounds like hope for the 16 year old...every now and then laundry, got the hint and took his up to his room. The 18 year old? Had I seen him asleep like that after I already slaved over his laundry AND folded it, I would have taken it and dumped it on his sleeping head on the couch! Let it fall all over the place! Then I would tell them I was starting aniki's new house rule...if it is still laying floor an hour from now, it goes in the trash! If he doesn't get the message, start loading it up in a trash bag with coffee grounds and what not.

Ha...and if they say you are acting crazy? Blame it on hormones! LOL