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His ex wife still pretends they are married.

Amotherfirst's picture

:? They've been legally divorced for over a year. Separated for much longer. He doesn't speak to her, she doesn't speak to him. When it comes to visitation for their boys, he arranges things with her father, who is great and very helpful. The confusion starts with her still saying she is married, still wearing her ring, and keeping her divorce a secret. He has confronted her about it in a sit down with her and her father and she freaked out and stomped out. What gives? Is she in denial? Embarrassed? Why can't she just put her big girl panties on and move on? Why pretend to be in a marriage that died years ago?

Amotherfirst's picture

I'm just wondering how long she thinks she can keep this up? Do her friends not wonder why they haven't seen recent pictures of them? Or why they haven't seen HIM? What does she say? Is he working overseas? She is bizarre. He told her in front of her dad that she needs to see someone professional because this DELUSION she keeps feeding is making her seem crazy and her father agreed with him (her father is a pastor) here's to hoping she takes his advice. :sick:

Rags's picture

Time to put an announcement in the local paper. Reference the location of the divorce decree in the county court records. Once the divorce is published in the paper enough people should know about that she can't continue to lie about and dilude herself at least not without people knowing she is full of crap.

One thing that I did not have to deal with during my divorce was my XW wanting to keep my name. When we divorced my XW petitioned to re-establish her maiden name as her legal name. We had no kids so there was no reason for her to keep my name. She got lippy and disrespectful when the judge was ruling on her request to return to her maiden name and he threatened to deny her request until she proved conslusively through medical testing that she was not pregnant. Good thing the judge did not force those tests. She was pregnant... with her geriatric Fortune 500 executive sugar daddy's kid. Had the judge known she was pregnant it would have thrown a whole bunch of complexity in to the divorce. As it was, I was just glad to get out of that marriage and get on with my life with my adulterous whore of an XW fading in my rear view mirror.

kathc's picture

Ah.,,,she's playing the "look at that home wrecking whore" game.

Are you married to him? Engaged? If so, just wave that ring all over town, baby! If not, well, just be sure to refer to her as his EX wife whenever she comes up. Confide in a few big mouths that its so pathetic she still pretends to be married over a year after the divorce was finalized. It'll get around.

Amotherfirst's picture

I honestly don't know what she's playing at. We are engaged. Getting married in a little over a month. I want to call her out and tell the WORLD that she's living a lie but I don't want to cause any drama. He is actively standing up to her and standing up for us when I express my feelings about her still saying they are married and during the convo with her and her dad he asked for her wedding ring and she threw it at him. He tossed it out of the window of his car when he left. I wouldn't put it past her to go buy another ring though. He is worried about her mental instability and his boys. He asked me if I would be ok if he wanted to seek custody of them and I am more than ok with it. But I explained how getting custody from the mom would be difficult. She is taking the phrase "fake it till you make it" to the extreme.

sbm014's picture

I-m so happy This my BM has spewed many lies around town however in DH and I actually being mum on it all her true colors have started to reveal...

sbm014's picture

I-m so happy This my BM has spewed many lies around town however in DH and I actually being mum on it all her true colors have started to reveal...

simifan's picture

Confronting her obviously hasn't helped... I like the publishing idea. IF your getting married in a month, I'd pay for the extra add announcing your wedding with a nice photo.

Amotherfirst's picture

I like this idea very much. Soon to be DH also thinks its brilliant. Thanks so much! Wink