Mother's Day
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Hi all- I'm new here. I was thinking about what to get my own mother (and stepmom) for Mother's Day and it got me thinking about BF's BM. We haven't been dating for all that long but I've known him for years, his son is almost 2 and he's been split from BM for almost a year. Growing up, my dad always helped me pick something out for my mom and stepmom for Mother's Day. Should I bring up Mother's Day at all to my boyfriend? I think it would be a nice gesture if he got something from their son for BM. They're good friends and get along well. Your thoughts are appreciated 
His son isn't in school yet
His son isn't in school yet and doesn't go to daycare, so there wouldn't be any gift coming from those kinds of places.
I help my skids make their
I help my skids make their mother cards. I will not put a dime in for gifts any longer because she doesn't deserve them but I do help them make her cards. It is about them not her. My skids' BM is a crack whore who dumped them on DH and I and runs in and out of their lives as she pleases. And when she decides to come into their lives it is just to influence them to do bad things to get back at DH and I. Otherwise, if she were a good mom, I would probably go out and pay for the gifts they picked out myself. Just remember, whatever you do, do it for your skids and you can't go wrong.
Popcicle pic frames with
Popcicle pic frames with marker designs and magnets on the back with a pic of kid. Cheap, easy, fun project you and dh can do with skid
My dh and I did that for
My dh and I did that for years. We made sure that we took them shopping and paid for a gift for BM for holidays, and a card for her birthday. When they were older but they earned money around the house and did their own shopping. She never did the same for their father, but it didn't matter. We felt like we did the right thing, and they remember it today.
Well, do what your heart
Well, do what your heart tells you to do, but just don't expect anything in return. Before my BD had a step-mom, I used to get father's day things for her to give to her dad. Now that my exH is married, his wife can do that. I think if I still did that, my exH's wife would get offended. I always ask my BD if her step mom took her shopping for father's day and her dad's birthday just to make sure he's not getting NOTHING from his daughter.
I usually do something for the BM of my SD11. If Mother's Day falls on DH's week to have her, I WATCH HER FUCKING KID FOR HER BECAUSE SHE WONT COME PICK HER UP BECAUSE SHE IS A SORRY EXCUSE FOR A MOTHER. So that's my gift to her...I give her child some of me and my daughter's time. *If mother's day falls on BM's week to have her, in that case, she's stuck with her. Pathetic.
"Even though you don't
"Even though you don't respect BM"
Was that part directed at me? If it was, I'm sorry I gave that impression but I didn't mean to convey that. I met her before they had a child and we got along then- she's been nothing but nice to me since I've been with my boyfriend and from what I can tell is a wonderful mother to their son.
What's PS'ing?
I think it would be
I think it would be appropriate for Dad to help kiddo pick up something small for Mom.
I always took my kids to get something for their Dad for Father's Day. I also took my kids to get something for their stepmom for Mother's Day a few times. Until they insisted on having the kids for Mother's Day so they could attend stepMmm's cousin's kid's first Communion on MD. Which, that year, was the day between my parent's birthdays (yes, they are two days apart, and were celebrating their 74th and 75th birthdays.). We had plans set for months. Some things one does not easily forgive - or forget.