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DH,BM,and I got in huge argument tonight. DH will be at work so he needed me to pick daughter up. Ended in no visitation and the word Bitch being used too much. I am upset because I used to pick up SD11 from school but all of a sudden after one stupid incident that happened early May, bm will never let me pick SD11 up alone again. Said DH needed to he at home or in car. CO said visitation started at 6. SD11 have not seen our kids since last incident so she was excited to finally see the kids. she would have been playing with kids until her dad got off.DH got off at 7. I was near her home visiting my parents. DH works 1 hr away. I know we have no right to be mad but we just don't get how I was good enough to put on pick up list at school but now can't be alone with SD11. Bunch of crap. Should I just shut up and mind my own??

What happened during this

What happened during this "one stupid incident?"

Btw, incident was just a

Btw, incident was just a manner problem blown out of proportion. DH and i both apologized several times. SD11 accepted apologies. Bm did not ...obviously

A "manner problem?" What does

A "manner problem?" What does that mean? :?
Could you include a few details??

Sd11 had legs gapped open

Sd11 had legs gapped open constantly while had a skirt on. Me wanting to avoid bm bitching at me for telling her daughter what to do, I asked her dad to remind her to sit like a lady. SD11 didnt understand,she called bm. BAM!! DISASTER

Oh. I was expecting something

Oh. I was expecting something bigger.
I was just reminding my DD11 to keep her legs closed in a dress tonight. "A lady reveals nothing."
I make sure she wears shorts/spankies under her skirts until she really "gets it."

Y'all have a messy situation on your hands.

How did something like that

How did something like that get blown out of proportion to the point that you are no longer allowed to be alone with the girl?

YES! lol we do. It is very

YES! lol we do. It is very tiring. Bm said we "hurt " her daughter so there ya go. I gave up on that and said you know what, I apologized so many times to Bm and SD11 but I'm still the bad guy. I have cried, thought I was a total Bitch . SD11 accepted apology but to bm I am the devil reincarnated.

sorry , I don't understand

sorry , I don't understand why your comment was something bad at all.I think you said 100% the right thing.Kids in this age need to learn what is right and not appropriate, they need to be told until they are old enough to understand.There are enough disgusting people in the world who may take advantage of a young girl who shows too much.YOu only did the right thing to remind her to do the right thing here.Nobody should have made you or DH to apologise for it.And SD should have been told to get over it and take the message on board.

That is totally pathetic, I'd

That is totally pathetic, I'd mention it to the attorney and suggest that you will not further reprimand the child on unladylike behavior. I quit reprimanding SKids, it was too much grief for me! I also quit doing 'mom' stuff with or for them too. Have at it DAD! My life became so much easier once I no longer participated, it was hard at first to bite my tongue but I got the idea pretty quickly. I did not have any animosity towards them, just Que Sera! I do not even consider how much different it could be if I'd raised them the way I thought was more appropriate.

Oh yeah. I will not be saying

Oh yeah. I will not be saying one word about SD11 manners anymore! The sad thing is bm admitted SD11 needed to be sent to a school where they teach manners ...can't remember exact words but close enough. I'm almost at the point where I am about to say F it!!! But I love the kid too much...even though she didn't call me for mothers day... I'm still sad about that. I go out of my way for that kid...