OK I dont know where to start so Im just going to do a few sections with recent issues...Let's begin with DH ex wife is married to my ex husband (yes she is that crazy) Which makes issues double. DH has 2 girls with his ex 10 & 8. I have 1 son with my ex 7. And DH and I have a 2 yr old son together. (who wait for it - the ex's also have a daughter who happened to be born same day) LOL.
SDs- Ok so the 10 yr old had cancer and is in 5t y rem. which is amazing and I know shes a very strong lil girl for overcoming that. But both DH and BM favor her over the SD8 which is just wrong to me. If SD10 meets someone new first words are (in a two yr old toddler voice) I had cancer. SD10 will be nice to me in front of DH but is rude and evil if its just us two. I have tried everything to be understanding and nice and I am just at wits end. DH ignores not only me, SD8 , and both boys just to give SD10 all his attention. And his exucse with me is "oh you just hate my kids" (not true but his behavior pushes me further away) I treat all the kids as fairly as possible If SD8. Im always left picking up pieces when SD8 is crying bc daddy wont spend time time with her. SD10 will sit in his lap ask for him to hold her and in private i try to tell DH she is far to old for that. (when my son who was 5 at time sat in my lap he said your to big to be in your moms lap- i shot him a look like are you serious you let someone 3 yrs older sit in yours) If i make dinner the boys eat was is cooked if they dont they do not get dessert. After both girls cr (which they are both very whiny) he makes them something else they barely eat and they get dessert. SD10 will use the blahblah makes us call him daddy . DH will get so upset- when i try explaining the girls our playing both fields (i come from a split family and i played the same fields lol) So take everything with a grain of salt. Well when we drop off kids we always get the phone calls for days on them grilling girls and half stuff is complete fibs - i tell BI and my ex that the situtation is fd up enough grilling kids isnt going to help them more. I never do this when they have my son if my son wants to share what he did or happened that is on is own i do not ask other than did you have fun did you see cousins etc. I do not talk bad about either one to any of the kids. But the both constantly talk bad ab me and my DH.
On with this lunatic BM(ill add bits of my ex who shes married too)- She has recently called insurance pretending to be me to get dr appts on my youngest son - she will then magically on those same days and times call DH and say SD10 needs something done with insurance so he of course has missed every appt ive asked him to go on for our son but 1. It has caused more fights bc he doesnt understand why i get pissed hes doing something for his kids. (KID its always the fave SD10 that needs it for one - its stuff she is prefectly able to do herself - and after finding our about insurance its clearly NOTHING to do with kids). She never has the ends other than school nights any whole day where she'd have to have kids they are at my ex's family for weekend for being sent off to hers for weeks at a time. Im not going to get into everything bc id be writing a novel or 5...She is constantly texting and calling me every bad name in book, a bad mother, scum f earth etc. it go so bad the other night i had to block both her and my ex husband from calling or texting me..The very next day shes texts DH saying ohhh my drs says im on your insurance can you check- of course she isnt why would it be coming up 4 yrs down the road...He uses his lunch to go up and handle insurance texts her bk saying no your not just says your restricted from using my ss (bc of her changing his addy on insurance and hacking into my sons info) I told him he needs to stop doing all this insurance bs SHE is capable of doing it but why will she if he runs off and does it for her sorry a**. After all the textsI finally just said YOU need to talk to her and tell her enough is enough get off her fn titty long enough to she this isnt about kids but about her. Anytime my ex calls to talk to our son 7 yr old boy (Who like most boys hates the phone) wont talk (i beg bribe ask even if he hasnt called to tlak to his dad) but he talks to no one if hes away from me he wont talk to me on the phone either. But my ex sends it into all ab DH and SDs so i always say that has nothing to do with the topic at hand and until you can get bk to it this converstation is done. But of course BM of Sds has to get her big nose involved.
Ill continue with the rest later since my sons awake but im at wits end with everything. And after the insurance BS and the fight the other night viz texts Idk why DH wil not say crap to her ab doing stuff herself- hell even yelling ab hacking into insurance on a child that had nothing to do with her who i had to be talked down from pressing charges bc his Girls lil princesses need to be living with a criminial clearly- ijust neer advice on how to handle any of this bc clearly trying didnt work stepping bk and having no role isnt working- i can only bite my tounge for so long before i smack some reality into every single person involved (besides SD i know this isnt their fault but they both do need to have rules to follow in our house- bc otherwise every time we have them they'll do whatever they want and i can not continue with that)