Ok first off I didn't make it clear in the last post, but that was almost 5 years ago not to long after my wife and I met. So now you have a understanding of the time line I will pick up where I left off yesterday. So yeah she pulled the whole poor me, the lady was mean act and her gm was instantly pissed about the whole situation. Well to put into prespective she can do no wrong in her gm's eyes she also said well we will not eat there and she was half tempted to call the owner ... she went off on the whole tyraid and I look over at sd and she was beaming you wouldn't believe it. The next morning (yes I stayed the night as I didn't have to work I was off for the weekend and dw asked me if I could watch her as she had to work her long shift like 24 hours her mom couldn't. Well this would quickly become standard practice we moved in together and became the ready made babysitter that will come more into light later on and I will get to that) I came down and sd and gm were having breakfeast and who do you think they were talking about? Me, ok so I didn't know what to do but then she said that I was mean and yelled at her and she thought I was mean to mama" that was it. I went down the rest of the stairs making sure they heard me I came into the kitchen and they were quiet and I said" I heard what you said and you need to tell the rest of the story and I want you to tell me how at all I was mean to your mom?" She couldn't believe I was calling her out she was speachless her gm was also mad I said this in a calm and polite manner mind you, she said nothing. So I filled in the blanks and I started from the resturant on and I outed all she had done she was mad she started saying "I did not " over and over trying to drowned me out as I was talking, thing is her gm did act at all surprized this will make sense later on and then she (gm) said well she's only 6, I was then speachless so once again I got my eyes opened. I then gathered my thoughts pulled myself out of being stunned and asked sd again " please explain how I was mean to your mother she just looked at the table and I asked again she then said "idk" once again her gm had a pissed off look on her face. She didn't like me calling her on her bs. I got up and went back to the br and call my wife told her what happened and she just said that's how my mother is and sd does that a lot . I said why do you guys let her act that way? Here it comes folks the ever beat to death more like beat to hell and back so many times for all these children that lack discipline and get spoiled with things and let them do what ever they want act how ever they want treat other people, animals(oh yes she did terrible things and still does when she can get away with it to pets this also I will get to later) her and others property here it comes "well she has adha and odd" the most over used excuss for the latest gen poorly behaived children at that time I was nieve to this and I accturally felt bad for. Being so upset with her and her behavior it was like she couldn't help it ,ok well I didn't know that and I asked dw why she didn't tell me from the get go and she said she didn't want to scare me off. Ok ok well yeah that wasn't right but it happened so I. Decided to do some research on both of those conditions I did quite a bit and the more I. Read. And observed over the next couple of months it was evident that there was a lot more going on a lot of it was all the enabling done by dw and gm. She was devious and so sneaky and here is the thing around certin people or say we were at a gas station(this happened) she was yelling and being extreamly disrespectful to both dw and I and a sheriff deputy pulls up next to us and she saw him and shut up and sat back it was like someone flicked a switch huh... same thing with her ggp's... funny how she can just put herself in check in the company of the right people ADHA?ODD? KIND OF ODD HUH...well putting this aside her behavior sometimes there are glimpses of hope or so I thought she told me that she that someone was being mean and bulling some of her classmates and she said she stood up to that person well that person turned out to be her! We found out she was bulling at school great right this was acturaly a few months after she told me that that we found out she was doing this. At this point my wife and I knew that we were right for each other and we both were vary much in love and we decided to get married (I know hind sight is always 20/20 and that this was far to fast and I should have eveluated the situation w the sd but I didn't and I thought that was just going to be a chalange in with the two of us that we could be united and hopefully get sd on the right track and get her tought about respect and obediance and here's. A thought, do onto others as you would want done onto you! Wow was I waaaayyy off as to what was going to happen . Anyhow we moved in together in the newly rebuilt house (I started helping her dad after the second date and put in long hours on my days off also watching sd on those days) oh yes I quit a great job and moved over 2 hours from my family freinds and my home town anyhow just pointing out I took large steps to move down here is what I'm saying I took a second shift job that I absolutly hated but it was the only thing arround at the time so I took it, dw then decided to go back to school for nursing so here I was thrown into being the one with sd all the time I then found a 1 st shift job so we wouldn't have to depend on her parents to watch her as they were not happy about this so I was taking care of sd for the most part dw was working weird hours and then going to school and was not at home much well this is the point in the story where it really starts to get bad. She turned up the shit-o-metter way up she ramped up the stuff she was doing she started going between her gm and I lying saying all kinds of stuff saying I was talking about gp and gm and saying bad things and being mean to her and she big shocker here didn't want me to marry mama and it just got worse and worse from there she was as defiant as she most possibly cand and calling names and telling me she hated me and hoped her mom didn't marry me and she hoped I died the progressed in to" you know I can take a knife and kill you when you sleep" this is from a child that brags and laughs about when she had a guinny pig she squezed it until it could sqweek anymore and peed its self and then a few days after that died. And I had cought her tourturing the dog and cat holding them by a leg and swinging them around like a lasso so when she said that it freaked me out I didn't want to wake up and find her stabbing me or what ever so up went the knives. That pissed her off yep it pissed her off. Well I have to go I will post more later