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Still FUMING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LONGTIME SM's picture

Weeks have gone by since my marathon nasty phone call with SD 35. I have blogged several times about what was said. For some reason it still infuriates me that SD 35 dared to tell me it was wrong for me to have control in my own home, over my own kids or even with my own husband!!!!!! I know I should blow it off and laugh about it (which i will probably end up doing eventually) but it is sooooo idiotic that anyone would make such ridiculous statements and I find it hard to believe that ANYONE WOULD COME UP WITH THIS!!!!!!

WTH is wrong with these people?????

For some reason I find these statements, as ridiculous as they may be, to be terribly invasive, kind of like BM and her minions are trying to INVADE my home. Based upon what was said, BM and her adult spawn ACTUALLY feel that they have the RIGHT to circumvent me and to make decisions in my own house and about my own bios! :jawdrop: :jawdrop:

When you put this together with all of SD's little passive agressive acts over the past few years of trying to go around me to get my bios or H to make me babysit her spawn on my days off or to get her spawn to play with toys in my home that she knows I don't allow my own bios to use because they are destructive and annoying, etc, etc, I realized when I wrote my last forum topic that SD 35 has been trying to control my life by using her spawn for years now and that she enjoyed this powerplay. Although at the time I recognized that she would try differant ways to force me to keep her spawn for her I did not really understand why. I thought that she just wanted free babysitting but now I think that it was more about her and BM thinking that they were controlling me when they were succesful and especailly if I changed my mind after they whined to H (I never agreed to do this though unless it fit into my schedule and my bios plans). As a result of this revelation though I have this to say to BM and her adult spawn:

FUTURE LETTER TO IDIOTS

Stupid idiot SD 35 and SS 36 as well as BM 60, if you want me to relinguish any control in my home, with my bios or even with my own H you need to step up and start assuming my responsiblities and start paying my f****** bills !!!!!!!!!! Then and only then do you have a snowball's chance in hell of telling me I should not have control over any or all of the above!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When you send me the first check we can TALK!!!!
Until then shut the HELL UP, stay out of my and my family's business, and keep all future contact between you and your Daddy - the rest of us (myself and bios) don't give a Da*n!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks,

LSM - The One That Really is and Will Remain in Control SO GET OVER IT!!!!

sandye21's picture

Longtime, I went through a much similar scenario with SD36 (only child - UGH!) just before Christmas, she telling me in my own home what I was and was not allowed to do. It DOES take a while to cool off from it - especially after DH shoved me away, telling me he didn't want to be in the middle. But the longer you stay committed to not being around them until they can act like adults and letting HD know you are not wavering, things start to get better. HD's Birthday is this week. In the 20 years we've been married, SD has never sqeaked fifty cents out of her cheap pocket to send her Father a birthday or Father's Day card. She always calls at the last minute before he goes to bed. If I pick up the phone she simply demands, "I want to talk to my Dad!" If this happens again, I am going to inform her that in the future when she calls, she will acknowledge me, identify herself and be polite or I will assume it is a prank call and hang up.

Stay committed to expecting mutual respect - everyone deserves it!