He really surprised me and asked me what I thought we needed to fix. REALLY?? Now, after all of the talking, the crying and finally the bitching. It takes me really making a decision to talk about taking the steps to leave this hell.

I just laid it all on the line. In so many words, I said, your children are rude, dirty and just get under my skin. They won't clean up after themselves, they don't listen to me any longer, I am NOT raising a 4 year old that you and bitch BM dropped in my lap. I do LOVE his children, the two of them that weren't put here on earth to destroy me, I am willing to help raise, to be a positive role model in their lives, but EVERYTHING in our home has to change starting TODAY or me, my children and my tax refund will be relocating to an apartment and that's FINAL. He started crying, said he loves me and my kids and doesn't want to end things, at least not without trying everything in his power to fix it first. We are making a chore list for all of the kids, I make going shopping this weekend and my bedroom becomes MINE again. He talked with BM about SD4, since we have no legal rights to her, we cannot do anything for her as far as school, day care, Dr. appts. So we are getting her moved into an apartment and paying her rent for 2 months and I am doing her taxes so she can pay her rent up. I am sure we will have her back in two or three months but at least this time, he will have leverage to FORCE her into court. He will NEVER be dad legally but she can sign custody over to him. (she won't right now, but when she is ready to start getting high and being a slut again, she will do whatever it takes to get him to take her) Then SD4 can be in daycare while he is at school and work. I have been raising kids since I was 10 and started watching my sisters while my parents worked, I just don't have patience or energy for a 4 year old, with VERY high energy levels full time. I wish I did, but I don't.

Sorry so long, I wished I had talked to him a long time ago, I may not have as much resentment as I have right now, I really hope that we can work through it and get to know each other again. Maybe it will work, maybe it won't but at least I can show my children that quitting is NOT an option until ALL avenue's have been exhausted.