Why would someone give the person they divorced or are no longer with a gift? I don't care what kind of relationship someone has with their ex, if you still feel that strongly about them that you go buy a gift, perhaps you should still be together. I see no reason for it.

DH's ex gives us a gift card every year from her, not SK's. We just cannot figure out why. I mean, she has no income other than child support since she refuses to work, so it's like we bought it for ourselves.

LMAO aggravated!!! :P" I mean, she has no income other than child support since she refuses to work, so it's like we bought it for ourselves."

there is NO reason for exes to exchange gifts -- NOT ONE!

I have taken issue with this too, the difference is BM expects us to buy her a gift for all the holidays and wish her happy bday and moms day etc. If she doesn't get that she will send DH a smart ass email "yes the mother of your child is having a wonderful birthday" or one said she was mortified that we had not purchased a gift for SD to give her :? The funny thing is DH has moved on with me and BM has moved on and is getting married too, I think now that there are two separate complete families that they should mind their own and do for their own not expect from us. We want nothing from his ex and she knows it so she always has to send some smart ass gift over, she's stupid they just go straight to the trash. I should start collecting the crap she gives DH and re gift to her on Christmas LOL

We help the kids pick out something for BM for Christmas and Birthday and she does the same and helps them pick something for DH. Around Christmas time this really bothered me as I felt it was now my job to help them pick something for DH, but then I realized that it was one less thing on my list of things to do....so let her deal with that!

I help the kids pick out something for their mother/father. But I do it because it means a lot to the kids, not for my husband's ex-wife/my ex-husband.

My husband's ex girlfriend which also happens to be the mother of my SS7 used to attempt to give him gifts well into the first year we were together. One gift was even as extreme as a gold rope necklace. She attempted to pass these gifts through my SS7 who was only 3 at the time. My husband sent the gifts back each and every time through SS7 and told him that Mommy needed to save her money. Needless to say, she did everything she possibly could to try and "win" back my husband. I thought it was pathetic and hilarious!

IMHO it's completely inappropriate. It blurs the lines between what it OK and what isn't. There is nothing psychologically healthy for anyone involved in doing so. I agree that if you are from a family of "gifters" a "family" gift is ok, because youw ould do that with other families as well... but BM to DH NEVER or vice versa.

I don't think it's appropriate for someone to give a gift to an ex if one or both are in new relationships. Many people have posted that they help their skid(s) pick out gifts for the bioparent; like them, I think that's alright because it's really from the skid(s).

I do know divorced couples (my parents), though, who still exchange gifts with one another. I never realized how weird/awkward/creepy/inappropriate it was until I started to date a divorcee. Yes, some people do have different relationships with their exes, but that doesn't make it okay.

Nope never ever a reason to buy the ex a gift. You are not together anymore why would you get a gift for someone that you say you don't care about anymore?

We just do the art thing. The kids understand their parents are NOT together...obviously. We have a piggy bank just to be able to afford to do fun things with the kids...how would we and why would we spend another dime on their mother? No way. They get it. And it is the same out there.