My BF is very upset that I will not let him move in with me. He got custody of his 13 yr old. the BM kicked him out cuz she was afraid of him
That was 4 years ago and this boy is a mess. My BF has such guilty dad syndrome that he refuses to follow thru with anything. Will make excuses for K. He will tell K to do this or that and if K doesnt do it..he ignores it till it bothers him again.
This nearly 18 yr is a bum. He drinks (beer, liquor) smokes like a chimney has sex (all the time) doesnt pick up after himself stays out till all hours, no job and has a 9th grade education. Cusses all the time and respects nothing and no one- Oh and he has a hardcore band that practices every week at BF house. (they are TERRIBLE) and that is not an exaggeration! My BF thinks that his son needs a good "family view" and that if we move in together K will get that..I said to him NO Way..I have 2 BS of my own and they are well mannered men. Not to say they are perfect but they are going to college and respect me and my home. My BSs said that they would not let K do whatever he wants and would not put up with his crap..If my BF son and my sons got into a yelling match or worse how could there ever be a good outcome? Whenever I try to give advice I am shut out, I am told that I dont understand or that my BF has tried that or K will just have to learn the hard way. I told him I can not bring K into my house and cause chaos - I like my little happy world and not looking forward to fighting with BF about his son or fighting with his hateful kid.
I feel selfish but to tell the truth my ex treated me with anger and hate and all kinds of nasty language I will not take it from a punk kid.
I know BF is dissappointed but I fear if they move in - it will be the end of us..and I do love him.