My fiancee is a great man. He loves me unconditionally, has a great personality, he's great with my kids, and most of all; he's a wonderful father to his children. So with all of that how could I ever be upset? The answer: THE EX.......

She's been a "stay in bed mom" for 12 years and when he finally left she said, "So does this mean I have to get a job?" She went to college (that is where they met) and has a degree in accounting and she is a licensed massage therapist. Being that she had this "lifestyle" for 12 years he pays her $1700/M in alimony and another $1500/M for child support. All the money he gives her goes to the mortgage (the house that she hardly ever cleans), her mini-van (it's disgusting inside as well), her gym membership (babysitting included) and every other expense she has. Many of you reading this are thinking, "This girl is jealous..." DARN RIGHT I AM!! For the next 6 years (she gets alimony for that long) I have to be the one to pay all of the bills for our household. Don't get me wrong.... I'm blessed to have a man who cares about his kids that he doesn't want their lifestyle to change, but lets be real..... 2 of his 3 kids are in school, so when his youngest starts school in 2 years shouldn't she work full time? She doesn't brush their daughter hair (We spend 45m each Saturday morning detangling) because she claims she doesn't have enough time. She dresses them in ratty clothes because "he never cared about their clothes before he met you". She will interrupt his evening call to the kids to rag on him how it's not fair that she has to "do it all alone with no help", she says he's never on time to pick them up, he doesn't care, blah blah...and she's saying this with the kids right there. And yet he's getting what he pays for. They didn't go before a judge for any support, he just agreed to it. He pays for their health insurance, and also the co-pays. And to make matters worse, she's dragging on their divorce...(in the state she filed it can take up to 2 years)....
Ya know.... I work full time, have 2 children (6,3) get NO support from their father (however he does pay their health insurance)and I'm an independent woman. When I left my ex our lifestyles changed; I had to get rid of my mini-van and totally down grade, I left him the house since he wouldn't leave, (he has since let it forclose....another issue!) and I no longer get to have my little shopping sprees like I used to.... when you divorce, everything changes. He sees his kids every Tuesday and every weekend (and we live 2hrs away) and when he asks her about switching a day here or there she says, "NO"..... but he will accomodate her all the time. I love him more than anything, but will he always let her push him around? Is he doing this out of guilt?