Desparate to SCREAM
I am 2 years involved with a divorced man of 5 years. He has a crazy ex wife, most of them are. I am from a small town and was brought up that you don't speak ill of anyone in public and there is no conferntation.
This is all this lady is about and I have had it. She is a loud mouth mother of 4 with 3 different fathers. A recent baby with the newest boyfriend she lives with and still is in our lives. I know she will always be in our lives because my boyfriend has 2 children with her. But she is forever text messaging my boyfriend saying that she wants him back and that she doesn't know what she did wrong. She is bi-polar, one minute she loves him one minute she hates him and i can't take it anymore.
I'm ready to ask her how her boyfriend, latest father of her baby, would feel if he knew she was still texting her ex husband.
I'm at my witts end with this person. Do i spark the confrentation or will i be just as foolish as she is?
Hi Desparate,
We have the same type of BM, only I really do think she a Personality Disorder.For women like her,it's really no good to get into a confrontation with her.(as I have discovered myself)she will twist your words until they suit her purposes,such as to make you look like the Psycho!You are not foolish! Just don't play into her hands,that's what she wants. She is all about DRAMA! The more you allow her to get to you, the more "pleasure" she gets out of it.Just grin and bear it, believe me when I say,that is the absolute worst thing you can do to her! She won't be able to get her Jollies then.Have you asked your BF why he "allows her manipulations?" All he really has to do is ask her "does this have anything to do with the kids?" if not he needs to tell her "I will only discuss the children with you" and do not respond to anything else she has to throw at him.If she gets him on the phone with the pretext of using the children to talk,the second she starts in on "other" things,just say,well we're done talking about the kids, and hang up. If she ONLY texts him, he might need to cut out the texting on his cell,so she will be forced to talk on the phone. And then he can enforce his rule!
Good Luck
hangingin