And BM2 is back to telling DH what to do with his Will
Last night DH told me about an email he received from BM2. Again, her little narcissistic brain is working over time trying to figure out how to get money. Her life is all about money.
My FIL is not in the best of health. He has COPD and probably other things wrong but, at the age of 85, he won't go get checked as he's says he's too dang old and just wants to join his wife in Heaven. Fair enough.
BM2 the vulture knows he's not going to make it too much longer. Cha-ching!!! Money money money. DH is the only child and will inherit all. It by no means will make him a millionaire...just enough to probably buy a house. It's not that exciting.
But BM2 is aching to get a hold of that money. She knows DH won't leave her a thing but she is trying to steal via SS15, as he's innocent and on the spectrum so wouldn't understand. So she sends an email to DH saying that, in his Will, DH should leave a good portion to SS15 to help with his special needs. He should think about his older children as well. Finally he should only give a small portion to me as I've only known him for 5 years. It's been 7 years, but still...
She is such a greedy, self-centered witch. By the time DH passes, hopefully it'll be a good 25 years or so from now. We'll have been together about 35 years by then. But none of that counts because I'm just the useless POS in her way of getting her ex back long enough to get hold of this facking money!!
It's entertaining but, at the same time, I'm appalled and sick of it. I wish she would just leave us the F alone for once!!
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He needs to shut this down.
He needs to shut this down. She has no right to contact him about money. "I will not be discussing my will with you." Is all he needs to say.
Oh he's told her to her face
Oh he's told her to her face that she's not in it and why should she be as he was nothing more than sh*t on her shoes. Literally...I have a blog about that little incident.
Ignoring it is the best he can do now. She has been told by him several times this year to go pound sand, she left him, he's moved on so f-f-f-f-flip off.
Crazy never changes and, unfortunately, never stops. How I wish it were different sometimes though. This site keeps me sane and lets me rant lol.
None of her business. I
None of her business. I can't imagine discussing our wills with our exes. We haven't even discussed them with our kids (his kids and my kids, there are no "ours" kids) and they are the heirs. DH and I have known each other 5 years. We are not in each other's wills. His assets go to his kids and mine go to mine.
I would never dream of asking
I would never dream of asking my ex about his Will or making demands of what should be in it. Normal, sane people know that when you divorce, it is no longer your business.
This tramp, though, will try and try and try until she's 6 feet under. DH will have a nightmare of a time when FIL does die as BM2 will be crawling all up his bum trying to get some moola.
I can't even bring myself to imagine what kind of shizz this poor excuse for a human being will give me once my sweet DH passes. I can tell you though, I will tear that woman apart.
I remember BM writing DH from
I remember BM writing DH from prison that she is "entitled to 50% of everything" he has. They had been divorced for almost 12 yrs at that point. Her logic was that she 'was his wife' and 'the mother of his son'. At that point he and I had been together for almost 5 years, far longer than their 2 year relationship, I am the mother of his 2 kids and a good portion of what we have was aquired by us together or me directly. But hey, prison is probably pretty boring and the imagination runs wild. I still joke with DH that 50% of his 50% of our kids together should belong to BM. The entitlement, pfft. Its so irritating. I hope your DH makes an air tight, no BM will. My parents are far older than DH's and BM's and far, far, far better off. My 2 kids are their only grandchildren. Their wills, divided amongst their 3 kids with my entire portion going directly into trusts for my kids. No me, no DH and certainly no BM.
"Her logic was that she 'was
"Her logic was that she 'was his wife' and 'the mother of his son'."
DING DING DING!! This is exactly how BM2 thinks. Because she's known DH longer and has a son with him, she has more entitlement than I do and their relationship was more legit. If we're going to apply that logic then BM1 should get most of everything. She met DH in 1974 and had TWO children with DH. However BM1 is not a psychotic narcissistic moron so has never spewed such drivel.
Both DH and I started over, literally, with nothing to our names but one suitcase holding all of our worldly belongings. We are working our butts off and building a life together. We are equally contributing to what we have now and what we build for the future.
Therefore, the things that WE are working for and will work for will stay with US. If BM2 doesn't like that then she should have never left DH the second things got a bit rough and he wasn't makes gobs of money.
There is a thing called Karma, BM2. It is a big, mean, old beeotch and so are you. Welcome to it.
She thinks she is his
She thinks she is his financial advisor, now? What a greedy little...
When DH and BM were still married, she tried to get a small life insurance policy from DH's dad, that DH's parents had bought for him when he was born. Even after all of that time, it was not worth a lot of money but she wanted it. FIL told DH there was no way he was giving her that policy and tell that bitch to never call again (he did not like her, to say it nicely).
When DH and I got together, FIL gave ME the policy so that DH could cash it out or do what he wanted with it (he knew I would not take the money from DH).
If BM over here thinks she will get anything via SD after DH dies, she is sadly mistaken. SD26 is getting nothing and DH himself has made that decision. SD thinks she is getting our house someday, she is not.
No, not a financial advisor.
No, not a financial advisor. Just a greedy little... She is absolutely wracking her brains, desperately trying to figure out how she can get her talons into the money.
My FIL hates BM2. He has not spoken to her since she called off her and DH's relationship the night she "accidentally" called out another man's name in the marital bed. DH was understandably upset and BM2 had wrung FIL in the night saying DH was trying to kill her with a gun. From that day on, he told her she's full of sh*t and never wanted anything to do with her ever again. He has stuck to his word. He even specifically states that she is NOT allowed at his funeral.
She's a peach.
Don't you just love how BMs
Don't you just love how BMs magically appear with "so much concern for the children" when they want money? Isn't that just super fun?
Before I was married (we were engaged). BM showed up ON THE DRIVEWAY. And proceeded to tell him how stressed for cash she is... And how she can't even pay for snacks for the kids... And what about gas money? Legit asked for like $500. FYI, at the time she had a SUPER good job (later fired from for not going, don't you just hate that? Lol) DH called me (since he figured it was my finances now too) and asked what he should do. I basically told him to tell her to pull on her big gel panties and stop spending all her money on herself. She can't pay for gas, then he should have the kids until she can (he had them basically full time at that point anyways, she was "too busy" aka. I don't want the kids because I need time with my bf and to spend all the money I make not on the kids...) but I did say if he was worried about snacks for the kids he could buy a few and send them with the kids once (only until the next paycheck) to be sure the money actually went where it should.
Since then she magically appears upon occasion with a sob story about money and how she doesn't have any and woe is her, and can she have money?
Our BM is also a narcissist. Aren't they fun? Lmao
Oh she doesn't even pretend
Oh she doesn't even pretend to be interested in SS. Well, if you count her FB posts about children who are autistic, then she's MOTY *eyeroll*
She just flat out wants money. DH flat out has told her she isn't getting squat. And it eats her alive.
They are not fun. It would be fun to push her off of a cliff.
I really like your idea of
I really like your idea of fun.... Let's be friends. Lmao
Mine pretends. She hurt DH SUPER bad. So DH is only sympathetic (too sympathetic in my opinion. lol) when it involves the Skids. She knows that and (for the most part) unsuccessfully tries to plays on that. UNFORTUNATELY for her, I somehow became the one that controls finances. I, since we have the kids full time and I know she wouldn't use it on them anyways, am a bit (WAY MORE) unsympathetic. DH normally just tells her no now and then we laugh about it later when he tells me.
Yayyyyy a new friend lol Yeah
Yayyyyy a new friend lol
Yeah BM2 hurt DH super bad too. She very conveniently forgets all of the horrible things and tries to portray that she's his best friend and mother of the year. DH will tell me what she sends and then deletes them. The best entertainment is when she lived her for about 9 months. She'd come around while I was at work and hint and wiggle and pry to try and get DH back. DH had enough and told her exactly where she could poke it.
Entertaining yet I wish she'd just crawl in a hole and stay there.
She basically throws herself
She basically throws herself at DH... we went to her parents once to get the kids. (Mistake... But whatever... done is done) DH was handed a small child (former nephew) and all the sudden BM had crazy interest in the small child.
I notice SD8 is limping super bad in softball (like the one game BM bothered to show up to) so I run over to check on her, BM doesn't move, until DH gets up to come over and see where I went, then BM shows up and shoves me completely out of the way and scoots up to DH.
Plus the endless attempts at flirting and how she scoots closer and closer to DH whenever she can. I pulled him once and threw a warning glance. She scrambled. I almost laughed.
If that gives you a picture of how she acts. lol. Yet she also cussed him out if he wouldn't take the kids like four days early for her every week (before she just full on ditched them) go figure. lol.
Also I wouldn't allow her to live with me, I don't eve like her coming here period. You're a way bigger person than me!
Holy h3ll no way that snatch
Holy h3ll no way that snatch bucket lives with us!!!! I'd rather eat poo!!
If I had made a big deal about her coming in, she'd be obsessed with that too. I figure if she wants to come into our home, look at all of our family photos, see all the things that are ours and get humiliated and told off by my DH...knock yaself out. It makes for good entertainment and a great laugh.
If he inherits a lot can she
If he inherits a lot can she come after him for a cs mod? I think yours lives with you but is inheritance considered income?
I work for. Public housing
I work for. Public housing software company... I know for them at least, income has to be consistent, for instance, you win the lottery; if you take the big payout then it doesn't count as income, but if you take the monthly payouts for life it does... I'd imagine same thing would go here. I think money like that only can be gone after if you got it before the divorce because it counts as assets.
SS15 lives with us full-time
SS15 lives with us full-time 24/7/365. She pays DH nothing. Well, in the five years SS has lived with us, I think DH has managed about £300 total out of her. So, if anyone would look for CS at all, it would be DH. However, it's not worth the headache and she'd be like all the deadbeat BM's on here and somehow worm her way out of paying anything anyway. Also, she is back to living in Cyprus so it would be far too much trouble just to get the same old nothing he always gets.
I thought that was right, I
I thought that was right, I was thinking yours never saw bm but I get it switched sometimes. It just made me wonder about people who will get an instant court date right after their last living parent dies
This makes me wonder what BM
This makes me wonder what BM thinks about DH’s will. After all, she IS the mother of his children. Baahaha.
You should hand everything
You should hand everything over to the GUBM, of course. You're being so so selfish robin!
:sick:
That’s me Selfish, selfish
That’s me Selfish, selfish robin. I’m willing to bet both my pinkie toes that BM thought DH was going to pay the remaining mortgage when it went into foreclosure. Just like I’m sure your BM’s motives aren’t centered around SS despite what she says.
I call her Voldemort too. DH
I call her Voldemort too. DH does ignore her now but it doesn't stop. I suppose it never will as she'll never be a balanced person. Once in awhile, it would be so nice if she could just take a short break though
BM was adamant that SS be
BM was adamant that SS be beneficiary on SO's life insurance (she wanted him to get all of them which totaled close to a million) he laughed and siad SS will receive a generous portion should something happen but he's not getting all of it. That already pissed BM off, then he would not budge on the benefit paying into a trust for SS's benefit NOT controlled by her. Boy was she livid but she had no choice. Having a trust for the benefit of the child be beneficiary is very common especially for the large amount it would be and if it had gone in front of a judge (and SO was totally willing to take this to trial) SO would have prevailed.
She's like your BM. Nothing but $$$$$ running through her head and the few times modification was brought up to her she didn't give a sh!t about custody, she was just focused on what the CS line would say at the end.
When FIL dies, he is giving a
When FIL dies, he is giving a small amount to each grandchild, which includes SS. That is being put into an account where, if SS wants to withdraw money, DH or I need to be present. BM2 will hit the roof when she finds that out.
Hopefully, by the time DH parts this world, BM2 will either be rotting in Hades or too dang old to cause trouble. Somehow, though, I don't think that will every happen...
Part of the paperwork with my
Part of the paperwork with my ex-h is that we must each maintain a term life insurance policy in the amount of 300,000$ with each other as beneficiary in trust for the kids to be until they turn 18.
I don't remember specific details, but it's something along the lines of DH can use a max of 12k every year until they're 18 for general purposes - reduced to 8k for ex-dh once the oldest reaches 18, and reduced to 4k when the middle child reaches 18... once the youngest turns 18, ex-dh has nothing.... but the kids will get 10k a year every year after they turn 18 until it runs out, under certain conditions... if conditions are not met it stays in trust...
If I died today, this is how it would go:
34 months until my oldest turns 18 (august 2020)
50 months until my middle one is 18 (december 2021)
72 months until my youngest turns (october 2023)
ex-dh would receive :
1000 a month for the next 34 months
660 a month for the next 16 months after that
330 a month for the next 22 months after that
ex-dh gets nothing after that
If conditions for the kids to get their 10k a year aren't met, the $ stays in trust until they turn 30, at which point they would be paid out half their share, and the other half at 40.
Or something like that.
Anything else - is in my will - and nobody but my lawyer knows what's in it. My kids don't even know how much I make...nor how much I have in savings... neither does DH, and I'm happy to keep it that way.
Wow that's a nice set up. All
Wow that's a nice set up.
All BM2 knows and will ever know is that she gets nothing. She will find out eventually that anything SS gets will be set up so that she can't touch it. That will be a great show to watch
Lolololololol. I can see our
Lolololololol.
I can see our BM trying to pull something like this. She is so money-grubbing and definitely uses the kids. Fortunately, the youngest is now 17.5...soon as she hits 18 I'm changing DH's life insurance to list me as beneficiary. DH also has wealthy parents and stands to inherit a lot. I'm sure they'll also leave a portion directly to grandkids...but he'll get most of it. I'm sure BM will think they're entitled if he passes before me...uh. Sorry, BM. You got your pounds upon pounds of flesh from us already. I'm the only inheritor in DH's will.
What a greedy, entitled,
What a greedy, entitled, psycho.....love the part where she tries to tell him not to leave YOU money!
My MIL has money, and I can surely see BM expecting to take SD's share out from under her. I can also see MIL leaving a small amount to so many family members that no one really experiences any significant gain.
Two thoughts: 1) where does
Two thoughts: 1) where does she get off telling her *ex* husband what to do with his will? That's not her place anymore; 2) how morbid to bring up the will as if your DH will be dropping off, soon. All that said, my MIL brought up DH's will and told him he should be sure to make his brother his executor (not me), so that SSs will "get what is rightfully theirs." She said that in front of me...I just stayed silent.
This hasn't come up for us
This hasn't come up for us yet but I'm waiting for it. SO and I are on fairly equal footing financially. BM does well for herself, above average for the area. But she's in a different industry and won't ever bring in the kind of income myself or SO can.
BM likes to say ignorant things when it comes to not her money. Things along the lines of no 50/50 I need the CS. She's gotten sassy over SO making regular deposits in the college accounts for the boys. "Must be nice."
She likes to pretend I don't exist and tell SO he should come over for dinner the day he's returning from a work trip. Or buy tickets to random kids events requesting his presence (and funding).
She also likes to suggest that he should voluntarily pay above CS because I make decent money. Because, y'know, that's relevant. It's also a bit odd since any other time I'm some imaginary being.
She's such a weasel. I don't even consider myself to be someone with substantial assets but she is exactly why everything is locked down in trusts. I battle insanity on a daily basis when it comes to her. I refuse to do it (or SO have to) in a time of grief. But I can virtually guarantee she will come a'knockin.
late to the party - DH should
late to the party - DH should play with her lol and say things like, I plan on living for some time and will draw up a Will in the next 10 years, but thank you for your suggestions...
this way he gives her hope and she starts spending the money she will get via SS..... thus years from now she gets nothing }:)