I don't have any issues with photos of the skids while DH and BM were still together, I just don't want BM to be in any of them, and honestly neither does DH.

SD11 does have a photo collage in her room that has some photos of BM in it, even one with BM and DH together which kind of irks me, but it's her room so I just don't look at it.

Baby pictures, infants yes we have some. Were they taken by BM yea I guess. I never thought of that way. Her fugly mug isn't in the picture so whatever. We to have tons over pics over the years that were taken by me.

I will admit there is one pic that irks me. It is of SO and ss12 as an infant. SS is lying on SO chest in bed. A bed he shared with BM. Is it a sweet pick of a Dad and his child yea it is. So for that reason it is on display, BUT it is strategically placed in the wall unit with a lot of other pictures. By strategically placed I mean more of less hidden in the back behind more current pictures. This way I don't have to really see it!

We have a picture in our house of BM, DH and Skids on a ride at Disney. When we first moved in together he wanted to hang it in SD's room. We had a huge fight about it. BM isn't dead. They see her Mon-Thur (at the time). It finally got mixed in with some of SD's crap but never hung on the wall. We recently moved and that picture surfaced. I told SD she could hang it on the wall of her new room. DH said hell no. He didn't want a picture of BM in hanging in our house??? I wonder if he even remembers the fight we had years ago about it. Also, SD doesn't want to hang it up either.

The pictures that bother me now are those of BM older children (DH is not their father). We were re-organizing our filing cabinet a few weeks ago and several pictures of BM's older children were found. It was from when they were very small. Probably when BM was pregnant with SD. I sincerely thought about hiding them and throwing them in the trash. I didn't do it. I just put them in a pile of DH's junk. I don't know what about those pictures in particular that bothers me but they do.

I just wanted to add that my MIL still has a picture of BM and DH hugging hanging on her wall. It's the first picture you see when you walk in the door. I have been with him longer than BM at this point and there are zero pictures of us on her wall.

I have a thing about photo's on display in overall...

I just don't like it and do not allow it....makes a place look untidy...

Deigma has a big pin board in his room full off his photos, he chops and change as he feels.the ones he takes off is put away immediately. He took all of the baby photos off when he was 8....

When I moved in with DH he had a box of pictures of the boys and some of them with DBM in them. I put the ones without her in frames and boxed the rest. He left the box in the garden shed for some reason and the rest of the pictures were ruined by moisture

His sister-in-law has made some collages of pictures that were taken when DBM and DH were together but non have her in them.

SS14 has some recent family pictures that his GBM had taken that has DBM in them but they are in his room and the rest of the house has pictures of the four of us.

I have photos in my home from when I was married to Asshat - of the kids only. It doesn't bother DH.

We have photos of the skids (only) from when DH was married to Medusa.

I wouldn't like it if someone told me I couldn't have photos of my kids when they were little in my home and I imagine my DH feels the same way.

It's a non-starter, in my opinion, as long as the pics don't have the former spouse in them.

There are 2 pictures of the skids in our house. One is a group one from our wedding and then there is a 5x7 of YSD and MSD and a 5 x 7 of OSD and SS.

Are you saying just newborn in picture? Newborn and Dad (meaning BM took photo)? Or BM, Dad and newborn in photo?

I don' display old photos of currently living people. I prefer recent photos. With those I have some in my old office (now my 'me' room). I also have several albums in my 'me' room. Old baby pictures are in albums and in my trunk.

Would I display a photo of Bm, DH and newborn (or baby/toddler)? No.

Does your husband have a man cave or work room where he could keep an album of skids? Kinda out of sight, out of mind?

There are approximately 0.00 pictures of skids in our house. Not because I've ever been a bitch about it. But my DH is a typical man. He's not into taking pictures unless it's a big deal (like maybe BS7 winning a gold medal at his karate tournament or something like that) and he's certainly not into taking pics and then taking the time to have them printed and frame them. The only reason we have pics of BS7 in our house is because I take them and print them and frame them, or order school, soccer, baseball pictures and frame them.

But I won't lie. It IS nice having a DH who could care less. SD did send DH an 8x10 of one of her Sr. pictures and believe it or not, I actually displayed it for a while, then I took it down to put fall decorations or something up and I honestly don't know what I did with it. lol DH has never asked so apparently could care less.

I don't display photos, I don't like how it looks.

There is a picture of SD hanging on the peg board in the garage, does that count?

we have a couple of collages in the hallway that the kids put together shortly after dh and dumb@$$ divorced. we have the kids' current school pics on the bookcase in the living room, along with our wedding photo. that's it as far as displayed pictures.

dh has a box of old photos, many of which were taken when he was still married to that meth-addled wh0re - she's not in any of them. i've seen pics of them together just the two of them, and as a "happy family" that MIL has possession of, but they will never ever be found under OUR roof.

Any pictures of BM/stepkids DH has are now burned to CD's for the kids for when they are older if they choose to keept them.
I got with DH when SD16 was 5 and SS10 was a newborn.

I came across their wedding pictures and several other packs of pictures-DH said to burn them.
Instead I put them all on CD's for the kids and gave BM the originals
(the wedding pictures had her family in them-and most were already passed on and she was very grateful)

Now-DH refuses to hang/put up any pictures of ANYBODY.
I have a wall in our family room of the kids/niece/nephews and that's it.

My stepkids refuse to keep any pictures of their mother.
I don't ask why.

No, I don't for the same reasons others have stated. I don't like how it looks.

Most of the photos DH has of skid are on his desk top or backed up on something. The few framed photos he does have are ridiculously huge, like 11x14 professionally matted and framed photos of skid as an infant. Apparently BM's professional photographer BFF took them. DH had them hanging in his apartment the first time I visited. I remember BM wanting them back, immediately, once she found out DH was dating, because her "BFF took those photos!" He never gave them back, out of spite.

Those photos aren't hanging because of that stupid drama. Bad, bad juju memories.

Now MIL, on the other hand, has quite a few large framed photos of DH, BM, and skid. DH hates it, MIL doesn't care that he hates it. I could care less because I no longer go to their house because they're animal hoarding pigs.

I have a few pictures of DD and the best canine ever. It doesn't bother DH. He doesn't have any skids pictures, BM has all of those. There are several pics with the skids that DH could print and place but he's never done it.

I guess I don't understand the pic thing. My son has a pic of his BD in his room. It has never bothered my DH. And, my son has a pic of me in his room at his dad's house. I am not sure how his stbSM feels about it. We have allowed SD10 to keep pics of BM and her brothers and sisters in her room. They are even on display. I helped her make these cute frames from Popsicle sticks and we hung them up. It helps her when she is missing her mom and especially her siblings (She left 5 behind when she came to live with DH).

My SM gave me a ton of pics of my parent's wedding. I asked her how she would feel if I displayed one in my home since it is one of the few pics that has my grandmother in it. She told me that she was fine with it, as long as I displayed a photo of her and my dad's wedding, so I have both out.

I just don't get that upset about it. DH feels the same way. It was before us so I don't see the point of getting upset about it.

Also, DH's brother and his SIL have recent photos of skid on their fridge. When we got home, I sent SIL a text asking if BM sent them in the mail. She said skid hand delivered the photos to them, from BM, when she was here on visitation last Christmas. I asked my DH if he was given photos and he said "nope".

It's all funny because BM never liked DH's brother and she has never met his wife.

DH has a picture of the three SS's when they were young. I hate the picture because it is the old fashioned traditional pic where there are all sitting sideways scrunched together and looking at the camera. And I hate to say it but they were NOT cute kids at all. They were all funny looking.
I never did hang that picture up. I have photos of the SS's hanging but they are pics that were taken since DH and I were married.
My Former SD did a collage of pictures she found online of all the SS's and my BS and even her and SGS. One of the pics she took off DH's facebook was a pic of YSS when he was little. It was a pick from a day out with DH and his XGF. I wasn't too thrilled but it was the thought that counts and former SD had no idea of the history behind the pic.
I don't have an issue with pics taken when DH and BM were married. She isn't in any of them and it is his children. I just like more recent pics hanging.
I don't even want to see a pic of my BS as a baby on the wall. I try to keep them up to date.

The only one that kind of bothers me is one of SS8 as an infant in the tub with DH. You can only see DH's ankle and one hand so it's not inappropriate or anything I just don't like that once upon a time my husband was totally fine with BM snapping pics of him in the tub (although clearly the focus of the shot is their baby).

I would have no problem with displays of children without their MOTHER in them in main areas of the house. I would allow the kids to have a picture of their mother in their room if they wanted one.

I would absolutely NOT make a big deal of pictures taken just during the TIME or in a PLACE where the EX was in the picture though.

I actually have a picture of my husband in a tux on my living room wall. This picture was taken on his wedding day to his EX. She is not in it.. just one of him and he is cute in it...so I put it up!

Look, at some point, we have to just come to the realization that the guy has chosen US. We have to accept that he had a life before we were in the picture and there is no way to go back and undo the past. It happened.. they chose us instead.. we won.. so we have to let insecurity go with regards to any reminder of the ex.

I wouldn't want to sleep in the EX bed.. but if it is used by the stepkid.. whatever, I have to get over that.

I mean, there will be no stronger reminder that they had a relationship before us than the STEPKID.. so pictures and furniture are so trivial in comparison. I wouldn't look for a fight here.

I do not display pictures in my home. Never have. Not my thing.

Ss30 and the GF gave DH a framed picture of the baby. It is hideous. It's a close up where the face takes up the entire frame. Not flattering at all. He really doesn't look as bad as this picture.

As long as photos don't actually contain BM2 in them, I don't give a flip who took the photo. Although, photos we have on display are quite recent. FIL gave us a huge bag filled with photos from when DH was a baby all the way through psycho wh*re BM2 and everything in between. It's in the cupboard under the stairs collecting dust as far as I know.

If DH wanted to display any photos of BM2, I'd have a problem. Otherwise, they are memories of children, not memories of who took the photo.

We have a picture of the skids on a roller coaster in the den, a picture of DH's deceased uncle in a multi-pic frame with pictures the uncle took (he took beautiful flower pics), and 2 pictures on top of the entertainment center: one of my parents and one of DH and me.

BioHo refused to let DH have any pictures of the skids. The roller coaster pic was found inside a book so that's the only one he has.

DD and both SDs are very photogenic and good looking so we have recent pics and we have senior HS portraits framed of all three. I have college graduation pic of DD, only undergrad, had no pictures for graduate school graduation done

. SDs have no college pics as they didn't go to college. I also have SGDs pics displayed.

The rest of pics are mine and DHs wedding/honeymoon.

I had my DDs wedding pics displayed as well but she widowed last fall suddenly losing her DH in tragic accident and I removed them because I just couldn't stop crying seeing them. DH suggested to put them in albums so I dint constantly cry passing them by. I also had a scrapbook of their wedding displayed. I put it away. At least for now I just can't have it displayed. Too painful

I would never displayed exes pics. If they are in albums it's fine but no way I'd have them displayed.

Dadswife, you have your husband's name in your post.

I had pictures of my dog made by a professional pet photographer in Golden Gate Park (not cheap). But I kept them in an album not on the wall. My walls are for my art - not snapshots. I

I am a little weird about photos and art and wall hangings.

I printed a BUNCH of SDs and So, and gave him the pile as well as a few favorites framed beautifully. Then I placed "couple type" photos on both bedside tables. Then more of my family stuff in MY room.

The refrigerator has a photos of "us girls including mom who is 95" and my mother and I... We are in process of gathering young kiddo photos to have that "wall/hall of shame" that families always have...

I don't mind who took photo or when, but I have personally gone through the kid photos and packed off all those including BM. That is part of their history/legacy. They can put all of them together in an album or framed or what ever and keep at BM house. The framed photos are with SO and child, so there is no issues. Others are sports or class photos.

Upshot - I will not allow any photos of BM, no matter what, to exist in my home. Ever. Period. Except for burning purposes, of course.

Yes we do... old photos of both MY collection and DH collection. They do not bother me as long as BM is not actually in them (ORRRRR my ex as well).

If we did not, both boys would have zero childhood pics displayed since we did not get together until they were like 8 and 6 or 9 and 7.... something like that.

I found this to be an interesting topic. My SD actually has a picture of BM and my fiance holding each other and smiling framed in her room. When I first saw it I was not very happy and we fought about it but since it is her room I just let it go. I actually thought BM sent it with her for the weekend and then found out that my fiance is the one that framed it and gave it to her (prior to us dating)...WTF?!?! If it was a picture of all 3 of them I would understand it but it irks me every time I see it. I know it is childish but I always "accidentally" place it face down on her dresser. I think SD is still hoping that one day BM and her dad will get back together. She still talks about when they were a family (they divorced when she was 2 and she is about to turn 10) so it isn't like it was yesterday.

Yep. DH is a widower, so when I first came into the picture, there were pictures EVERYWHERE of LW, and LW/DH/SKs. It took almost 4 years of asking nicely can we please take them down/move them to SK's rooms??

It was a battle and he made me feel guilty about it, but it finally happened. So now, there are some 'old' pics of SK's in 1 collage frame, but that's it.

The only pics of LW/SKs are in their rooms. Oh, and in the 20 BINS of pictures LW took, that we are storing in our basement. :jawdrop:

Everyone has their own trigger, so don't let anyone make you feel like you're crazy for feeling a certain way about pictures.

We don't have pictures like that in our house, but MIL has many and also a photo album of SD's first year. There are many pictures in it of DH and BM holding their newborn together, hugging, kissing... When SD was younger, she once ran right to that album at MIL's to show me her baby pictures. She was so excited! Meanwhile I was struggling with my squirming lunch. I managed to smile and fake enthusiasm at all of these pictures, and I never once mentioned to MIL or DH how much that bothered me. I can take it in small doses like that to make SD happy. Besides I can't erase where she came from. That doesn't mean I would want them displayed in my house unless it was strictly in SD's room.

We used to have pictures of skids in house, they really captured their 'essence'. SD was scowling with these hooded eyes and a look of complete disdain and SS looked really awkward, anxious and creepy. My body would have a visceral reaction to those damn photos every time I looked at them. When we moved house, they got packed up, and DH accidentally threw them out with the packing boxes. He never noticed or asked after them. I did a happy dance. Now we have no skid pics and likely won't as DH would never think to find, print and frame new ones. This works for me.

I actually have exactly 1 picture displayed. My ultra sound pic showing the twins for the first time is in their room.

There are no pictures of sd displayed. So does have an album ofbher baby pics because his father cleaned out their shed and gave him a box of pictures of him as a child and him with bm and baby sd,He trashed the pics of him and bm alone together. I gave him a spare album for sds pics.

His father still has a photo of bm/so highschool prom up. I do not care.

I DID care a bit when bm gave him a bag of pictures of then together when she moved about 2 years ago..because"he didnt take any pictures when he moved out so she thought he should have them. All pictures of just them together. He trashed them too. It just annoyed me she was trying to push sentiment on him after they had been split for over 3 years.

I didnt make him trash them. He did it. I have photos on cd and scrap books of exs. He just isn't the kind to hold on to things at all.

I actually like seeing old pictures of DH, I don't care if BM is in the picture or not.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not going to hang them up on our walls but I like seeing him as a teenager.
He and BM were HS sweethearts so most of the pictures are of the two of them going out somewhere. If they hadn't married it wouldn't bother me to see him with his HS prom date so thats how I look at it. She's not part of his life anymore.

Maybe because we were older and the skids were almost adults when we met it doesn't bother me as much?

We used to have pics of our kids hanging in our previous house. They lined the hallway of the first floor. If no one was home, I frequently used the bathroom and kept the door open and saw OSD's spoiled face staring back at me. Entitled, spoiled, never corrected, a precursor of her behavior for decades as an adult.

Staring at her face was a great laxative.