Halloween
Halloween went great!
So fun.
This year dh was very busy so he had no time to take ss13 to the store for a costume. He did not ask me to take him. (I think he was waiting for me to offer, mwahaha, i never did!)
So ss was going on about wanting to get a panda costume, you usually have to order something like that. I told him to look and let us know prices, if he could find in store we could run and get it. If on-line i could order it, but im not doing the work oh no.
Well he never puts in any effort, and im not going to keep asking.
So we then he wants to go last minute and go look, but dh cant take him, and he has no idea what he is looking for-none.
Well i start going homemade route and pulling out All the old costumes. That dh has bought him and he NEVER wears the masks. From any of them never.
Every year someone asks wheres your mask, him its to hot, its stuffy, i cant see, it itches, blah, blah. BUT he has to have the scary mask! For what? To never be worn?
Anyway ss goes over to his friends house on saturday to hangout, then monday he goes over with some other kids Wearing regular clothes. What he told this kids mother on saturday i do not know, but this woman buys ss a costume!! Nothing crazy. But still she got him one.
Hello lady we are trying to teach him a lesson. One if i went out and bought ss a costume HE WOULD NOT HAVE worn it. Two did he wear the mask NOPE!
What did he tell this woman? Dh was like wow i feel like crap she bought my kid a costume.
I am mad at ss for running his mouth, but also why did this woman not ask if it was ok? Like who do you think you are?
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I did not say anything to dh,
I did not say anything to dh, because ss is not at fault in dhs eyes. But hello dh, how did this woman know about lack of costume...she did not see ss then run to store before trick or treating!
I know its not a crazy issue just irritated that ss puts in no effort and it works out for him... and dh is kicking himself for not going out and buying ss a 40 dollar costume that he would only wear half of...
Guess I'm not cruel enough.
Guess I'm not cruel enough.
If I were that "Other Mom," I would have helped my son's friend prepare for Halloween. I wouldn't call his family --- if there was a plan for him to trick-or-treat from my house and he showed up empty-handed. Poor kid. I wouldn't want to shame his family. His folks might be dead-broke or, dealing with an illness, with father working all the time ... lots of reasons.
It would never have crossed my mind that a parent would be "teaching their kid a lesson" by not helping them celebrate Halloween. So, I'm giving that other mom a high-five for compassion.
No one is entitled to
No one is entitled to Halloween. He was being a lazy git and he needed to learn that choices have consequences. And what if his parents were choosing not to celebrate Halloween because of religious reasons or something? She should definitely have called to find out if that was why he wasn't dressing up. She over stepped big time.
Not cruel enough? How are
Not cruel enough?
How are we cruel? He was asking for the panda suit like beginning of october. He had plenty of time to sit down and look one up.
He could have WENT with me to the store a few time but Chose NOT to go with me. He wanted to go with dh, and dh told him very clearly he had to work.
And i could have picked him up something when i went out, but He WOULD NOT have worn it.
he would have told me why he hated it and why it was not for him.
Im not cruel- but helping out ss13 is not helping out.
And he could still go trick or treating... he had other costumes to choose from, he also has vampire teeth(the good ones) he just wanted to go buy a new costume.
He went to his friends house not dressed, his choice.
She has time to ask us.
I feel ss whined to her on saturday, she must have said something and thats why he went over there in regular clothes. He is not a dumb kid.
I did not say anything because this is why, i feel she over stepped the line, but im told to shut up and except this kind jesture and im cruel for not bending over for a 13 yearold.
You know what my 3 yearold wore, a fancy dress from easter with a dollar store crown and necklases she loved it. Its one night in the dark. But lets toss 40 dollars down the drain. And you can say it does not have to be 40 dollars, but that is what dh has spent on ss every year. I think its crazy. You know what i do for my son, i wait then after halloween i buy the super hero stuff on sale and bam ive got three costumes stored away. Id do it for dh but he makes fun of me being frugal. Whatever you want to flush money thats on you. We are not tight on money at all but i grew up with a couponing mother.
So its still weird to pay full price if i do not have to.
Girl, you don't need to
Girl, you don't need to defend yourself. You were in the right on this one.
Id buy a costume for good
Id buy a costume for good friends. My limit would be elementary school. I mean at 5th grade they are making their own choices. 7th grade is a little old to be feeling sorry for the teenager.
Lol, dh is not that way, i
Lol, dh is not that way, i think he told her thank you, when he saw her up the street. I would not have told her thank you, i would have asked what ss told her, and ask that she talk to me, if there is a next time.
I think the talk your husband had with them was good, i wish dh was more like that. But i would not be here if he WAS!! Lol
I disengaged from Halloween
I disengaged from Halloween as well and it was GREAT!