BM being petty AGAIN
So we have SD for Halloween this year. Yay. BM told DH that she had already bought a costume so we didn't need to bother getting one. I was 100% ok with that. Well DH picks SD up yesterday and when I got home guess what.....no costume. I asked him where it was and he informed me that when BM had said we didn't need to worry about getting one she meant she didn't want us to take her trick-or-treating and BM would just take her later. BM felt it was something that u do with family--translation--with her and her family because DH is only a "part-time" dad (those were her words). Needless to say I got mad but kept it to myself. The three of us went up to the store last night and we picked her out a costume. She has a little Halloween party with her cousins this afternoon and then trick-or-treating. I'm not gonna let BM ruin the day for anyone.
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My Skids' BM does crap like
My Skids' BM does crap like this all the time. We had the kids for a week this summer and were taking them to the beach. BM said she'd be packing them a suitcase of some new summer clothes and new swimsuits for them to take with them, that we wouldn't have to worry about packing them anything. OK, Great! The kids showed up, and, THANK GOD I knew better than to take her word. I opened the suitcase and there were 2 DIRTY "outfits" packed for each kid, along with a swimsuit for SD, but not one for SS. The clothes smelled like sweaty kids that had been playing outside all day (you know that smell, lol) The outfits didn't match at all, and one outfit that she packed for SS was green camo fleece pants and a yellow and navy blue hooded sweatshirt. For the beach. In July. I was livid, but I don't know why it surprised me. Luckily, we were able to round up some clothes for them to take, between our house and my mother-in-law's house, and we had to buy SS a swimsuit when we got to the beach. (We don't keep a boatload of outfits, since we only have them every-other weekend. Half the clothes we buy end up walking out the door to the BM's house, never to be seen again).
Good for you for not letting it ruin the kid's day! She thinks she's hurting you guys, but, it's really only hurting the kid. Shame on her.
Yea she has done that as
Yea she has done that as well. It's why I bought a few cute outfits for her to wear while she is with us. The clothes BM sends never match or are right for the weather. She'll send lime green pants with a blue hoodie in summer and then purple shorts with a pink top and boots for fall weather. Figure she does it on purpose.
Oh I'm sure of it- I guess
Oh I'm sure of it- I guess she thinks that we'll actually let the kids go out in public looking like that, so that WE'LL look like the bad guys. LOL
Ugh how spiteful- I wish I
Ugh how spiteful- I wish I could tell you that maybe next Halloween will be different but...
Good for you for just getting a costume for her and going ahead with your plans! Happy Halloween!
Happy Halloween to you as
Happy Halloween to you as well.
Yes, I wish BMs would understand that its not the DH they are hurting, its the kids.
Not only that but these db
Not only that but these db bm's KNOW that when they pull that shit that either dh, you, or both of you will get upset/pissed and go out and spend YOUR money on new clothes, etc.
They may be spiteful, petty bitches but they KNOW wtf they are doing
Good for you for rising about
Good for you for rising about her...
How petty can she be really, I have always been an advocate of "two family's is TWICE the fun!".
Have fun with SD tonight
I figure this coming year is
I figure this coming year is going to be one big battle. We get all the major holidays and BM is already complaining about it
Ugh. Flashbacks. Kudos for
Ugh. Flashbacks.
Kudos for getting the costume and continuing with business as usual.
That petty BS doesn't seem to ever go away.
Well my crazy BM won't let
Well my crazy BM won't let him. He's offered to take SD to the doc on his days off, babysit, etc and BM would rather PAY someone to babysit rather than give DH an extra day. It would made it easier on BM BUT she won't do it.
I cant grasp the reality of
I cant grasp the reality of that kind of hatefulness. I have lived with it every day for 6.5 years. My DH has been dealing with the parental alienation for 8.5 years. I still just cant get it. Why so much d@mn hate? It's now causing me to hate. It hate it. It is hurt my bio kids. Its hurting our family. And now I am starting to hate my SC and BM and her BF of 8.5 years. I hate all the hate! Why do they drag the kids into this d@mn hate-fest!?!
Our BM is a B!+ch like that
Our hateful BM allowed the kids to dress in their costumes for school since it was "her morning" with them. The kids were coming to our house that afternoon for Halloween (BC it was DH's night with them). Then she had them remove their costumes at the end of the school day, and send them home with BM's BF's daughter. The SC got off the bus crying bc BM told them we would "throw away their costumes and not let them trick or treat anyway". She is such a b!+ch. That was 2014. Now its 2019 and not a d@mn thing has changed!
I mean honestly I'd be sad if
I mean honestly I'd be sad if I couldn't take my kid trick or treating but that's the reality of divorce and she should be able to find something else to do with her. We have at least 20 different options around here for different trunk or treats, halloween carnivals etc that arent actually on halloween.