Yes - he is in high school until early June. I have told DH that he can stay until he graduates.

for the last few months, he leaves the house to go to school and doesn't come until about 10:30 pm each night. DH and I usually already in bed, but we hear the beep beep of the alarm system letting us know a door is open.

I am in the shower when ASS leaves his room to eat in the morning and then I am still upstairs when he leaves. If I position myself just right whilst sitting on the couch, I don't even have to see him when he walks in if I am still awake.

I don't think I have actually seen the kid in like a month - LOL!!!

will you start a GoFundMe page, please??

Nope - that won't happen. DH has already told both ASS and me that after graduation, ASS is out on his ASS.

DH thinks that he will leave the day he turns 18. As I hide to try my glee, I always say, "no, he won't. Where is he gonna go?"

right on the money, Lady. I think ASS stays, because where the hell else is he gonna go? It's not like he will move in with DH's parents, 20 miles away and they will drive him to school.

It's not like he will move in with Medusa's dad and SM, who live 30 miles away and travel all the time.

DH thinks ASS leaves. We shall see....

Oh, how I hope you're right.

But there is the pesky little problem of having no place to go.

I moved out of my mom's house in my senior year, but I had lots of friends and a great place to go. ASS has none of those things.

DH is using the "so where are you going?" approach with ASS. ASS says he has it all figured out, but of course, won't share the info. Oh well.

I don't speak to him, but if I did, I would totally do the same thing - "don't forget to leave a forwarding address. I am counting down the days til you leave, I bet you are, too, huh? No, I don't give a shit about where you will go or what you will do, as long as your ASS is out of my house."

ASS has made his intentions clear - he has NO desire to live in our house once he graduates. Yay!!!

And, he has told people how "abusive" we are - DH's parents and Medusa's dad and SM. Yet, none of those people have stepped up to say "let us take ASS off your hands."

*shrugs*

I don't know, I really don't. That child is like a ghost now. He leaves in the morning and he no longer speaks to karate kid when they walk to the bus. He comes home, sometimes after everyone has gone to bed, and heads straight to his room. He never comes out. Or at least not when any of us can see him.

The beauty of him being an adult is that we no longer have to put up with his bullshit. The first time he tries any of that "I'm an adult and you have to treat me like one" crap, his ass will be on the front porch and as he walks away from the house his ass will be hit by the giant black garbage bag containing everything he "owns."

So basically his ass will be hit by an empty black garbage bag.

I hear what you're saying, and to be honest, if it was just that the kid didn't want to go to college and was a typical teenaged jerk, I might do the rent money thing.

BUT - this is a kid who actively campaigns against me by calling the police and CPS to tell lies, is openly and blatantly disrespectful to me and his father. I just don't feel like rewarding that kind of behavior.

We have been telling him for two years now that if expects to live here past graduation, he will need to adhere to our rules. He has told us that he won't do that, so we have told him that it would be wise to get a job and start saving up for his future.

He has not done that.

I was raised with my brother, who was a drug addict, physically abusive thief who stole from my parents and from me, Max and Looney for years before my parents learned the art of tough love. I am a big fan of tough love and natural consequences. ASS has known for two years that he should be preparing for his future. I am NOT going to subsidize his laziness anymore.