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over step's picture

I think I've spent more time with DH than Puke has these past 24 hours. We watched TV on the couch last night and most of today after doing some organizing. Puke has been in her room 98% of the time she's been here. DH went a meeting this evening so he took Puke to her cousin's while he's there. I have the house to myself for a few hours.

DH told me that Puke told him that she would visit more if not for her mom. According to Puke, BM doesn't want to make the drive. I believe that to an extent. What I believe more is that Puke lying. I don't think she would come more because she has shown that is not true many times before. DH of course believes her whole heartedly.

While DH and I were watching TV earlier, Puke was in the family room with us playing a video or something on her phone so loud I couldn't hear the TV. I politely asking DH to turn up the TV volume because I couldn't hear anything. He did but only asked Puke what she was watching. No, please turn that down so we can hear our show. Nothing. Never seen a grown @$$ man so afraid to ask a 16 girl to turn it down.

Guess Puke is really pushing DH to drive when she is here. Not sure how that works if she is not on our insurance but she doesn't even have her permit. DH said he would help her get it. I reminded him that he will need to fix the driver seat in his truck as it doesn't move forward or backward. She can't touch the pedals. No way in he-double hockey sticks will she be driving my car. I guess MIL said she would give Puke some money for a car but that won't cover it all and DH knows we don't have the money to contribute. BM would have to pay for the insurance any way since Puke lives with her(that won't happen). DH thinks he can afford any maintenance on the car. I asked him how when we barely have enough to fix our vehicles. He replied with a "I don't know". Well you better figure it out before you make promises your wallet can't pay.

Ever since DH got home with Puke yesterday he has acted like there was something wrong. I asked him a couple times what was wrong but he just says nothing is wrong with a terrified look on his face. I am assuming that something was said about me but I'm not going to push it. He'll tell me if or when he is ready. I can only imagine what was said. Then I was organizing a closet today and said something about buying some shelves. He got that look again. I'm guessing Puke said something about the closet we organized yesterday with new shelving. Something to the tune of Puke doesn't think she has enough money spent on her and I am using up all of DH's money so he can't. I told DH that I got the feeling he doesn't want me to spend any money right now. He denied what that look again. This after he was talking about all the things he wants to get Puke. Better start saving your pennies babe cause I work a full time job, make sure the house is clean, make sure we have food in the house, make sure the bills get paid, and do all the laundry (minus Puke's) and if I want to buy something we can afford, I will whenever I want. No ungrateful child is going to stop me. She doesn't scare me in the least and I will be glad to explain that to her any time.

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oneoffour's picture

By Wednesday he will settle down. And then Puke will want to run home to momma. She just thought that seeing she hasn't been over for a while the Prodigal Daughter script will be running for her. Umm, nope.

over step's picture

I'm sure that's not the only reason.

He feels so bad for Puke because she has to put up with BM's "crazy". Please! Puke chooses to live with BM and loves the drama. Plus, Puke gets sympathy points. No, I do not feel sorry for Puke. She made that bed.

Future reference noted. Won't acknowledge sulky mood again.

The little time Puke is in my presence she is not acknowledged. But is probably 15 minutes a day.

over step's picture

DH will never wake up. His rose colored Puke glasses are permanently afixed to his head.

Oh, if she says something about the tablet, I will remind her that she has a laptop I gave her and if she's not happy with it I would be happy to take it off her hands. Then she can buy something she is happy with.

The Tyrant's picture

Sally's right! I allowed it to stick me with a $1,000 bill for a new saxophone which I was told only cost $600 and she would pay $200. I normally pretend I dont notice because she needs to be talking to his dad about that kind of stuff but she knew BD wouldnt give a shit that his son needed a new sax so she played the game on me, and it worked because I allowed it too. She never even asked me to buy it, but played the "poor me, I dont know what I'm gonna do" card and she won...

The Tyrant's picture

Lol! You know what Sally, it is "White-Knight Syndrome", its all about saving a damsel in distress. And i think most men want to be that when we can but also dont want to be used/abused and when you love someone love can distort better judgment. I didnt take the sax partly because my bios love when he plays and it sometimes puts them to sleep which I really appreciate!! Lol! Also, it will serve as a lasting reminder and a lesson for me. That was a huge purchase and i figure she wont be asking many more favors because i still have that to hang over her head! Haha!

The Tyrant's picture

Sounds some what similar to my situation. My disengaging came with buying whatever I wany for myself and our kids together with not much regard to how it appears to ss14, thats between ss14, W, and BD. Normally if I something its because there is some benefit to me like I organized his bdrm closet with new shelfings but it was because he hung dirty clothes (yes, HUNG DIRTY CLOTHES!) in front of an air condition return vent so it circulated his funky smell throughout the house. So I tore out the old shelfing and put in new ones so the vent return wasnt covered by stinky clothes. It was a win-win, no stinky house!

kathc's picture

Ding! Ding! Ding!

Puke is claiming she'd come over more but mom won't drive her. Now she'll get dear old dadddddy to teach her to drive, help her get her license...then she'll need a car! And your DH will bend over backward to provide her with one so she'll be able to come visit whenever she wants and not be stuck with BM refusing to drive her.

Once he gets her a car you'll never see her again except when she needs gas money, car repairs or decides she wants a NEW car.

The Tyrant's picture

Correct! And one way or another, you'll be paying for that gas or repairs, either directly or secondarily. It has already been determined that he cant afford the extra repair cost so when he fixes her car, he be short on a bill that you'll have to cover. Happens to me more times than should be allowed!!