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Lazy, teenaged SLOB

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Submitted by Goincrazy40 on Mon, 08/03/2015 - 8:09am

I haven't written on here in FOREVER! I have been trying to stay positive about my step situation. Besides, my work creates more than enough drama. So I ignore my steps so I don't lose my mind. LOL

I just want to vent a second about my 4 weeks away from being 16 step son. My DH and I have fought, screamed, and cried over this kid. Typical, lazy, entitled. He has done NOTHING all summer. Slept, ate, Xboxed. DH and I had a blow out last night about the cleaning of our large home because I had the nerve to say that it wasn't fair that the kids doing five minutes of "dusting" each didn't count and he needed to make them do more. He said they wouldn't do it and oh well. I could go on and give all the boring details, but we have all heard them before.

I came downstairs this morning to see the USUAL. Every light on. Dishes ON the counter. Crumbs EVERYWHERE - counter, floor and table. Mind you I cleaned all this stuff yesterday. This kid thinks everyone is his servant. And where did he go after making this mess? Back to bed. Where did I have to go? To my office for 12 hours of stress. I left it all. If I say anything to DH about it, he will flip out on ME, not the kid.

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Submitted by Monchichi on Mon, 08/03/2015 - 8:16am

How do you manage with no support? " If I say anything to DH about it, he will flip out on ME, not the kid. "

You've been at this for 4 years, the kid is 16. Maybe the positive for today is you only have 2 to go until varsity and hopefully it's an away plan/ 2 to go and he's out the house!

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Submitted by Cover1W on Mon, 08/03/2015 - 9:15am

I have same issue with two SDs. Walk away. Don't touch a thing. This is the hardest for me as I like a neat home too. DP complains maybe not directly at me but whines. "I am too tired to do this" Gee I didn't go to work all day plus the commute plus grocery store plus work on a few things around the house all in one day. I'm so energetic I can clean the house for the three of you after 9:00 pm! "It's just too overwhelming!" Well, have the girls help you clean up. Better yet, teach them to do it every time. "They are just kids!" They are not five. They can do it because we are not their maids.

Make him clean. He won't understand the issue until he does it all the time for months in a row. Keep calm and don't argue with him. If you need a night away do it. Keep YOUR room clean so you have your space.

Throw things away or give them to charity. This is best done when you are alone. They will likely not notice. Don't replace crap for anyone!

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Submitted by notasm3 on Mon, 08/03/2015 - 10:47am

Oh hell to the no. You need to flip out on him and his fucktards.

I'd gather up all those crumbs and shit, throw it in a big bowl, add ice and water and dump it on the lazy asses who left the mess.

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Submitted by ExArmydad on Wed, 08/05/2015 - 1:26pm

Yeah I'd lose my shit over that. If DW wouldn't stick up for me and my expectations of my house, I think I'd pack everything up and I mean everything and throw it away. I wouldn't even care! We'll all have to learn to eat off the floor because I refuse to clean up after my DD or SD8, much less a 16 yr old.