DH said the wrong thing...
I blogged about a couple of weeks ago about SD getting in my room by popping the lock on our door. So, I took everyone's advice and I put a new lock on the door. This one requires a key, which only I have. Well, this morning, I took a shower and was getting ready for work. I walk out of my bathroom sans clothes to find SD11 standing in my room.
SD11 yells, "Completely, what are you doing? Put some clothes on! God!"
I ran back in the bathroom and yelled, "Get the hell out of my room now, you little brat."
Oh, I was so mad. So I get dressed. I go out into my room and find that SD11 came in the room from the patio doors that lead out to the backyard. My DH left his keys on the counter so she used the house key to unlock the door.
I went out into the living room where she was watching TV, turned it off, and asked her what she thought she was doing in my room. She just shrugs and says, I wanted to talk to my dad. I told her that she better never break into my room again. I was tired of her crap. And, she can't stop snooping, there is nothing around here for her to take to her mom.
She tells me to leave her alone and turn the TV back on. I told her she was done watching TV and she could go to her room. So she goes in her room and of course, slams the door.
DH was sleeping when this all happened but he woke up when her and I were arguing. He comes out of the bedroom and I explained to him what happens. His response, "She was in the wrong and I will punish her. But you shouldn't have yelled at her. Maybe you should apologize."
I was seeing red at this point. I told him, "There is no way in hell I am apologizing. Instead of lecturing me, maybe you should work on teaching that little snoop some manners."
At that point, I locked both DH and SD out of the bedroom and finished getting ready for work. I am glad I have a meeting at the office today. I don't want to be around either of them right now.
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Wait he didn't wake up when
Wait he didn't wake up when you got out of the shower and she yelled at you?
I think he was kind of awake
I think he was kind of awake when that was going on. But then he fell back asleep while I was putting clothes on. I was taking my time before I went out in the living room because I was so mad that I was afraid I was going to say something I regretted later.
Maybe you should
Maybe you should apologize.
Maybe you should put your foot up both of their asses, instead.
I can't believe he thinks you should apologize to her. I would be livid.
Holy crap, I would be LIVID!
Holy crap, I would be LIVID! And I strongly suspect I'd be telling "D"H to find a hotel room for the night for him AND his brat! She totally violated your space and privacy, and instead of having your back he told you not to yell at her?!?!?! Yeah, I'd be starting WWIII until he realized how utterly serious this is, because he seems to think it's a temper tantrum you're having and that it's no big deal. It may not be for everyone, but for ME, this would be a hill to die on. Like "this could be a deal breaker in our relationship" kind of hill.
OMG....I probably would have
OMG....I probably would have chased down the brat while naked and whipped her little snoopy butt!!!!
WRONG response DH!!!! I would be soooooo mad, too!
Not only was she in your room
Not only was she in your room but she had the nerve to tell YOU to put some clothes on in your own bedroom???? OMG I would be seeing red.
Oh, I'd say he said the wrong
Oh, I'd say he said the wrong thing. Let me get this straight, Mr. Completely - YOUR kid busted into a locked room, a room she KNEW she was not allowed in, and Completely is the one who has to apologize because she yelled?
I don't think so.
I see this becoming an issue for me soon, as I am finding SD13 hanging out in my bedroom with daaaaddddeeee (his desk is in there) more and more. Usually I just stand there and stare at both of them until they get the hint, but I can totally see this kind of breaking and entering in my future.
He's right, YOU shouldn't
He's right, YOU shouldn't need to yell at her, because HE already should have - the FIRST time it happened.
Perfect punishment!!!!
Perfect punishment!!!!
Livid. I would have unplugged
Livid. I would have unplugged the TV (I did unplug a computer once). I would have confiscated some desired item from her room. I would have announced to dh that my naked body has now been violated and nooky will cease until I can get the image of a scorning little girl dissociated from my nakedness.
And that's just for the actual incident.
Him saying that? My dh has never dreamed of saying something so despicable so I can't begin to imagine what I would do. Nothing but trouble ahead with that kid if Dad thinks you have to apologize to her in such circumstances.
What the fuck??? No way.
What the fuck???
No way. Your DH better start apologizing TO YOU and kissing your ass and he'd better punish that brat and stick to it!
If I'm naked in my room with
If I'm naked in my room with the door locked, and somebody comes busting in, they better be prepared to see me fly into a naked fit of rage while I hand their ass to them. That is complete and utter bullshit.
I think the words, "Get the fuck out of my room!". Followed by me chasing them out would've happened. If you don't have privacy in your own bedroom, what do you have?!
Your dh is an ass. He needs to apologize.
And that kid... I have no words...
WTF? She's a weird one right
WTF? She's a weird one right there?? I'm curious as to what the question was that she just HAD to ask her SLEEPING father right that moment, that it required her to take his keys, go around the house and through the patio doors??? Oh that's right there was no question, she's just a freak.
If you don't take her door
If you don't take her door off the hinges you should totally let her wake up with you sitting next to her bed staring at her. LOL.
REMOVE THE DOOR!!
Your DH is crazy, he is the ticket to getting her to do what you want, why isn't he helping?? Lay out some sex toys and undies on your dresser and see if that makes him keep her out. Snoopy little shit.
My DH thought it was OK for
My DH thought it was OK for his sons to lay all over our bed playing video games on the TV in our room. I said I don't like it and this cannot go on. I was polite but firm. He didn't get it. The next time they were in there about 9pm playing video games I walked in. DH was reading on the bed, 2 SS were playing video games. I said "So, sex is off the books tonight then? Because this is where we have sex and I am NOT having SEX with you where your minor children were laying." Things changed overnight. Funny how that works.
I would be telling DH that you are not apologising for yelling at his daughter. This is YOUR bedroom as much as it is his. And if you choose to walk around butt naked so be it. However his daughter yelling at you to put some clothes on in your own room is not acceptable. So he better find a way to protect your privacy before you start defiling hers. Starting with removing her bedroom door. Then the shower curtain in her bathroom. Then the bathroom door. And the blinds in her room. If she has no problems about invading your privacy in YOUR room then game on!
Haha. They do say stupid things
Both times I put my foot down about dealing with my stepson, so that he was required to sacrifice and pick up his son and be on top of his attitude with the responsibility being his primarily. Seems like that was his job before he met me....! Lol. I really love my man, but last time he told me this stupid pity party shit. “I don’t have a choice. I’m only doing this cause of you.” And you should be grateful I am. Your son would be a limitless liar and user if not.