Skids have been with BM for almost 4 weeks. She has called, texted and emailed at all hours continually threatening to keep them solely due to the fact that I am NOT THE REAL MOM.

First I was supportive of DH and told him no way was she going to keep them and even if she tried to she has dug herself a legal hole, in which legally kidnapping them would not help.

Then I tried humor. Well her BF is not THE REAL DAD. They are boys and the BF doesn't do all the things that DH does in terms of boy stuff. Scouts, fishing, camping, sports, etc.

Then I ignored it. Same shit a different day.

Now I am resigned about it and suddenly DH is pleased with me. I am really angry. Was he just waiting for me to be sad at the thought of them coming home and having to go through 'programming' them? We will still have about 3 weeks before school starts when they get here and DH is all about me driving them to the pool, helping them make friends in our new neighborhood, making them food they like to eat.

Last time I made food special for a skid the cops ended up being called. The skids refer to me as 'you know who' and bully other children. So I am supposed to take them to the pool, pay for them to get in, and then assume they aren't being jerks to others or sitting myself in the sun for 4 hours a day?

Last year the skids came back about 30lbs heavier and really just mean. Total jerks. And DH cannot wait. I understand he has missed them but I feel the need to batten down the hatches...