This is survey kinda....

Sometimes I feel bad for not including ss in activities. Like say he is at his mom house and my kids are home. I might do something special with my kids because I know while his away he will with his mom. Then he will also go special outtings with grandparents then once a month he goes with Dad. He sees his grandparents at least three times a month with overnight visit.

So essential he is going on at least three outtings a month and sometimes more. I try really hard to do extra stuff with my children while his on these outtings because they do not have grandparents close and dad is not involved.

I even started working more hours so I could do this with my kids. Well every once in awhile it will get brought up that I spend more money on them in our household because of these trips. Most of the time the extra money goes to traveling two hours away to see my mom. Plus again I went back to work full time to be able to do this with my kids.

Should I feel bad because I'm spending extra money? I feel like my kids should have the opportunity to see their grandparents on a regular basis like as ss.

How would you feel in this situation?
Would you feel bad for spending the extra money?
Would you feel bad because ss doesn't seem to get as many outtings in our house?

My feelings about it is my life doesn't stop when ss goes for visitation with bm or other relatives. Second the extra money and outtings are so my kids can see grandparents and aunt's and uncle which live two hours away one way.

What's your opinion?