Glad you had a decent dialogue with BM, most BMs would start a nuclear holocaust over a text message like you sent. Glad she has offered to step up her game.. now let's hope she follows through.

I have a huge problem with your situation because in the evenings your DH is sitting around on his ass while you are taking care of his kid. If he worked shift work, I could understand. But what excuse does he offer for not at least helping when he is home?

I agree with Git - become less available. If it is difficult for you to be in the house and do nothing, then be gone more. If it will make it easier for you, ease in to it. Work late a couple nights next week (nothing says you have to actually be at work...) The next week work late and go out with a friend one night. Go in early another day.
Like she said, join a gym - that will benefit you in many ways!

You need to be firm. If you have plans, don't break them. If you want to care for SS once in awhile, then do it. But make sure everything is on your terms.

no we are a gaggle of stepmoms who regularly perform a formidable activity called steplife.

sha-ZAAAYUM.

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