My previous introductory blog entry was a little too wordy in length. I'll try to condense it. Basically, I'm a custodial SM to a teenage SS. He's only been with us for about a year as of this month. Before he lived with us, he lived with BM who received CS checks like clockwork for at least a decade. DH also paid for dental,vision, health, clothing, entertainment. Pretty much ANY of their needs were covered by DH. This financial information is relevant to this story because as soon as the situation was reversed, BM paid us nothing. SS has been with us for a year and BM has paid zero.

Living with BM has given SS a certain attitude about the World. An attitude of why work too hard, there's welfare to rely on. When asked how he thought he'd be able to afford living wherever without a higher paying job his answer was "There's always Section 8." If I mention how I'm not doing well based upon my medical issues, SS will tell me how I should just get on disability. BM is on disability. Or was on disability. She actively collected food stamps and had DH write out letters that were used as her 'source of income' so she could suckle the Government teat further. The issue is, this woman will bash the Government and used to post meme's about how people should fight the Government with all they had. Revolt she'd say. All of that noise she was talking quieted down once she started with food stamping and disability and whatever else she's able to collect. It's the audacity of it that bothers me. Talk junk about the Government online and act all one way, but use your Son's phone that DH paid for to call the Foodstamp hotline to see if your foodstamps had been deposited yet.

She's the sort that when it came down to her kids eating, she'd have one her kids get a job and stand around with her hand out than go get a job herself. In the past when faced with the fact that money was short (her kids were too young to work then) she actually told DH that she was too good to work fast food. I don't know about you, but if my kids needed food...I'd do jobs I felt were beneath me to make sure they ate. Whenever it was time for her to get a job, she'd shriek about her social anxiety and how she was afraid to go work. However, before she complained how she wanted to be out in the world working and being of use. She's the sort that comes into a little bit of money and buys beater car after beater car and ridiculous shit instead of saving it responsibly. She hasn't had a car in years because they're all beaters and she drives the guts out of them as she does doughnuts in parking lots blaring music aimed to catch the attention of younger people who'll think she's so aweeeesome.

BM's attitude in life is party your a$$ off (with your teenage children and their friends), never grow up, never be an adult, just live your life how ya' want in the face of responsibility. BM has literally told me that she hates working because someone is telling her to be somewhere at such and such time and she doesn't like being told what to do. When BM would blow the CS check on paying her personal cell phone bill talking to her latest internet love of her life, she'd call up DH expecting to be bailed out on her bad decisions. She knew he'd help so his kids didn't go hungry. Or their electric get shut off. I lost count the number of times he had to call the electric company to pay the bill because it was about to be shut off. Yet, BM made it a habit to go blow $130 on Red Lobster dinners or the like every single time the CS check came in. Instead of using the same money to buy a bit of groceries that *would last several days*. So, I've got a SS who has no money sense, no sense of how people actually WORK for what they have. Sure, he's seen DH work like a dog for years but that's just an expected thing. Not something that makes an impact.

We're here trying to teach this kid that people clean up after themselves and other things that normal families take part in. He decided living here with pretty basic house expectations was not something he was wanting to do anymore. He wanted to flee so he could do as he wanted. He is a minor. One plan he had fell through, so he decided he wanted to go back to BM. Well, BM doesn't receive CS on him anymore since he lives with us. BM actually had to have SS's brother, Older SS move in so he could take over paying all the bills. She's had either one of her grown children in her house paying the house bills and being the adult.

Older SS is now there paying all the BM's house bills. Being the adult. Older SS has realized all that BM did for years with her poisoning of DH to older SS. He's figured out that she ruined his relationship with his Dad on purpose and did all she could to cause problems. He ate it up as a teenager, but has reached adulthood and the realization that is woman ruined things for him for her own selfish reasons and basically hates BM now. Has told her so, because BM had the audacity to complain to DH about how terribly older SS treats her. How she was sooooooooo sorry about what she did to ruin their relationship (She saw the DH and older SS were close and wanted to destroy it and succeeded). She was a horrid,hateful and psychotic woman hellbent on revenge for her imagined slights. DH became the love of her life that I took from him when he moved on. They'd been broken up for a year, she had another "man" and it was all hell to pay when I arrived on the scene. How dare I, but she'd been with someone else for a year. She didn't think I had a right to be there. To this day, the older two kids will not have anything to do with DH because Mommy cannot handle it. Or, I'd imagine that older SS probably feels rather foolish for going along with BM on her hatred scheme.

So, SS wanted to escape from here (which isn't bad at all) and move back to BM as a last resort when his real scheme fell through. BM asks older SS who's paying all the bills can your Brother move back in, Older SS says no, if he does I'll move out. So, BM says to SS how No, you stay there...I can't afford to have you live here. DH told BM flat out, if SS leaves here and moves back there...you're not getting CS because you haven't paid me at all since he's been with me. BM basically devastated her son all for money. In fact, a couple of months ago DH composed a letter for this "woman" stating that he'd paid her $60K in child support only, not including medical or any of the other for the past ten years on SS who's living with us. SO this wench can qualify for more government teat suckling. It's hilarious, because in the past my not DH then sent me $100 in the mail to help pay my phone bill that I had ran up talking to him. She got wind of it and really made fun of me saying I was pathetic, living with my Mother, a "little girl" and how I couldn't pay my own phone bill. Bahahahaha, yeah. Meanwhile, this bitch is in another universe of not being able to pay her own bills. She has to have her own kids move in and be the adult and my measly $100 was a point to laugh at. I guess karma does bite you in the ass.

The cincher to this whole story is BM sat around and watched me on social media to see who I was interacting with. She sat in the shadows paying close attention to who I was talking to and who I seemed to like the best. She then SERIOUSLY she then befriended every single one of the best liked ones. She is actively working her fake ass internet persona magic to move in on my territory and make them like her better or whatever her bizarre and pathetic aim is. She lost the man (she never wanted, and despised until he had moved on and was happy) to me inside of her head. She came out swinging like I had busted up their happy home. They were miserable together but loony crazy can spin anything anyway she wants so it makes prettier picture. Her children weren't allowed to mention my name. She started a physical fight with me. It became a woman scorned and hellbent on inflicting as much damage as possible. Even if it meant tearing her kids apart in her process of revenge. She dragged his /our name through the mud, talked constant lies and degradations as she called him her baby daddy on social media. She alienated him to her kids, she lied her ass off to anyone who would listen so they'd tell her what a strong single moooother she was. She constantly brings up her childhood incest traumas and her teenage homelessness and basically prostituting herself to garner sympathy from people. So they'll tell her how strong she is for still being around. She's the sort that does people terribly, but it's all supposed to be forgotten and water under the bridge if SHE decides in her best interests to be friends with you. She's online right now painting this false reality for herself, a reflection of a person that doesn't truly exist. But, she has to move in on my friends. Because the internet is too small to find a variety of people.

She's seriously been nothing but trouble the entire time DH has known her and has done some horrible deeds towards him. What kind of a Mother repeatedly tells the Father of her children do as I say, or I'll clean out your bank account take the care and leave with your kids and you'll never see them again. This is what he was threatened with when they were together and he worked and she had access to his bank account. What kind of Mother is so insecure that her grown children don't even talk to DH because they know it would upset her? BM would tell DH to just leave, to get the hell away from the kids and not come back. She constantly berated and picked him apart for every single fault she thought he had. Because she was mad at him for me being who he married.

She started an actual fight with me and at the end of one night SS was then five and crying his eyes out because BM is banishing DH from seeing him and she's screaming at DH "Look what you did!" gesturing to crying child. That the child crying was all his fault. When she started the whole fight. This is the type of person that can paint a pretty picture for her reality online and talk her junk about me and mine meanwhile never revealing what a horrid evil bitch she was for a good decade. She only started playing nice playing pretend to DH because she somehow cares in her sick head what he thinks of her. That evil is still lurking under the surface no matter how nice that bitch plays.