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Toastergirl's picture

Submitted by Toastergirl on Wed, 05/06/2015 - 4:26pm

We met with our lawyer today, It went pretty well. I am temporarily reassured, as is DH.

DH is meeting with GAL on Friday. Lawyer said GAL will want to talk to me separately on a later basis.

Lawyer instructed DH not to reveal "too much". Not to show him my documentation unless he asks for a specific instance. He said this is essentially one big game of poker and we don't want to reveal our entire hand. Makes sense.

He also instructed DH that in the past he has been too animated with the GAL. He needs to be more mellow. State the purpose and give examples, not go on a tirade against hex, just be straight. If GAL asks questions about a clause DH has broken, admit to it but do not try to rationalize it.

I'm kind of nervous about the fact GAL wants to meet with me separately though. I honestly wanted to get out of it, bc the thought of it terrifies me.

Who here has met with the gal one on one? What did they ask? Lawyer said he did not know specific questions the GAL will ask DH.

I am still somewhat nervous and worried. I cannot concentrate on hardly anything, our case hangs on this GAL and his report.

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learningallthetime's picture

Submitted by learningallthetime on Wed, 05/06/2015 - 4:33pm

Just be honest. I met with exes GAL one on one. It was fine. In fact when things blew up AFTER ex and I split, I called GAL and he basically said I was the "normal" one in everything!

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Submitted by Toastergirl on Wed, 05/06/2015 - 4:51pm

Not to blow my own horn, but out of hex, DH and myself I am the "normal" one. Lol

What I'm most afraid of.... I'm afraid of him asking what I personally think (custody wise) is best for SD. Do I go with what DH/lawyer are pushing, or what is really best for SD?

He probably won't ask me.

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Submitted by Indigo on Wed, 05/06/2015 - 11:49pm

Relax. You'll be fine. Keep the "supportive assistant parent role" in mind. Low-key, responsible. No flame-outs about how bad this was or how outrageous that was or ... answer exactly what was asked. Do not anticipate questions/answers. Try to listen to the question and THEN formulate your answer. Low-drama, facts, "best interest of the child." Don't worry too much.