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He's turned out to be
He's turned out to be standard grist mill fodder. No change of venue because if it's not granted and the home county attorney refuses to recuse himself, then you've shot yourself in the foot.
I'm pretty sure he'll say to list me in the household despite the fact we are not married nor do we file joint returns.
I see the form was updated
I see the form was updated 10/2012. I have a feeling this was never included before then. Chef filled out the form before and I don't recall being asked for my financial information nor was included in his "household."
^^^ Very true
^^^ Very true
That's just it. I'm support
That's just it. I'm support Chef financially. There never seemed to be any self support reserve unless it was set WAAAAAY artificially low. If Chef were to apply to ANY apartment in the area, he'd be turned down flat.
The attorney also said that because of laches and that Chef set a precedent to get taken for a ride on his taxes when they divorced, then he's basically stuck with it. He'd have to go to court and start a separate litigation process to get that overturned, which Chef does NOT want to do nor can he afford it.
HA! He doesn't think so. He
HA! He doesn't think so. He thinks that just his presence alone is more than any compensation that I pay out.
Delusions of Grandeur!
Delusions of Grandeur!
I am also in NY. They do not
I am also in NY. They do not count stepparents income in determining child support. They only consider the CP and NCP. I would not provide the information. If it comes up, I would say that I didn't think it applied since it doesn't count toward CS.
UGH Just read under NYS
UGH Just read under NYS Guidelines:
"Sometimes the court may IMPUTE income that other household members bring in to the non-custodial parent (note: NO mention of imputing income to the CUSTODIAL parent)"
"When someone's income is imputed to you, it increases your total income in the eyes of the court. It may increase the amount of child support you are ordered to pay."
I don't think this is meant
I don't think this is meant for your situation. I would think this is for when people are putting income in other people's name to hide it.
They do inpute income for Custodial parents but it is an upward battle. Our lawyer is getting income imputed for our BM because she has a college degree but refuses to work.
He *was* going to leave but
He *was* going to leave but he wanted ME to buy HIM a brand new mobile home to live in. Funny he didn't ask for a HOUSE like the one we live in NOW--hmmm could it be you can take a redneck out of the white trash nation but you can't take the white trash nation out of the redneck?
I agree with the others--
I agree with the others-- don't give your financial information.
You aren't married, nor do you share any legal property/assets (do you??) so as far as they are concerned, you *could* be platonic roommates.