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jstorie's picture

So I should be thrilled... my sdaughter14 is in a theraputic home...she is finally out of the home and has been since the end of July. She has acted up quite a bit there too. She is supposed to be working on a relationship with me that is what the therapist said to me. she is supposed to talk to me weekley. I say to her do not call on wednesdays i cannot answer it I will be at work. So she picks two days a week that she can call Mondays and Wednesdays. Every Monday she calls her MEME. not me. Im doing my best to have a relationship! I send her a letter once a week. go to family counsling when i can. this week i could not go no sitter for the other kids. she knows it upsets me we discussed it last week that she didn't call. she did it again!!! I even sat down with my 2 and 4 year old to color pictures for their sissy i wrote her a letter which her dad would not even participate in. Its bull shit i just want to cry. i want things to be better. i don't know how to let it go! how do i not try? what does not try intail? how can i keep from getting hurt from a child! and immature one who sure as hell knows what she is doing? do i just divorce becuase eventuall within the next 3 months she will be comming home. im not doing this again and again . i can't do i get on freakin depression meds becuase ive been pushed to the limit! i cant do this! i cant. i literally just looked for two hours at quotes on love. beucase i love her and she does not love me. you would think i could handle this im 26 for heavens sake. parts of me don't want to be here anymore? how do i stop letting this get to me!!!!

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Ljcapp1's picture

I think it's bullshit that SD is being forced to have a relationship with you, and that she must call you. Her therapist clearly has no idea about step-life. You are not her mother. Her father needs to step up and take care of his kid thereby leaving you out of child raising for the most part.
If I were you I would disengage from this girl. Do not put yourself in the position where you are involved with her - don't say her name, don't think about her, and stop trying to force a relationship with her.

ItHasGottenBetter's picture

My SS hasn't once asked to talk to me or have me visit.

The Treatment Center isn't even addressing the step family dynamic. I don't want to be a part of it, but I think I could provide valuable input as I'm sure BM gives her version of his life, DSO would never say a word about his spawn and I would tell the truth.

ItHasGottenBetter's picture

Is it possible that the meds you are taking are making your worse instead of better? I have tried taking something for stress and they seemed to make me even more depressed.

You should focus on the kids that love you, not the 1 step child that has proven she doesn't.

jstorie's picture

She lives or lived with us full time. step mom is the ultimate low life hasn't been around in 11 years except once when she was in 3rd grade told her she was gonna kill me and get the dad back. thats when all of this started. linzay doesn't have a relationship problem with dh. becuase it all lies on me. or nothing will be addressed.

jstorie's picture

I do and I don't she doesn't have a mom... im it. if i give up i will be just like disgusting bio mom.

jstorie's picture

yes i really do i guess im upset that i want this more than her. silly. her dad should be sticking up for me saying don't treat my wife like this, but instead he says how do you think it makes me feel that she won't put her hatred for you aside to even make me a little happy.