DHS REALLY????????
OKAY,
So I get home yesterday and check the mail. Theres a letter for me and a letter for my DH from DHS. We were expecting these letters last time we spoke with DHS they told us they would send out the ending letter from the investigation saying that it was over. This was for child abuse against both of us. I open my letter and it says. I AM GUILTY OF NEGLECT! open eric letter it says we inform you that ...myname... is guilty of neglect against...sd name....
WHAT THE HELL!!!!!! the girl even told them it was for attention that i never hurt her let alone neglected her!!!! i told SO I never want her im my house again. I never for sure want to be around her! im so done! I don't know how I feel about my children being around her. im so angry all i freakin did las night was cry...for hours. i freakin love her... y the hell did she do this. FOUR PSHYC WARD TREATMENTS! SIX YEARS OF COUNSLING! I document everything! i did everything I was supposed to! I got my tubes tied becuase i was afraid of having a girl and the the resentment she would hold to her. i cut off some very important relationships so she wouldn't be jealous! it doesn't matter what all i have done im still the evil step mother! neglect! i did everything for her. DH stood by and let me handle it. anyone been through this? im not okay! IM NOT OKAY! i was abused and adopted! i swore i would never be like my bio mom! and im not! im a damn good mother~!
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Can you appeal it?
Can you appeal it?
Yes it said to send the
Yes it said to send the letter back signed to appeal it, my DH went up there this morning at 930 to find out what so called evidence they are backing this claim up by but supposably the ladies weren't there. I doubt they will tell him a damn thing! I already sent the letter back to them to appeal it!
NOPE HES NOT! AND HES MAD
NOPE HES NOT! AND HES MAD BECUASE I DON'T WANT MY FOUR YEAR OLD AND 2 YEAR OLD AROUND HER. He does say that this is bull shit and that i never deserved this and did apologize that it is he said he won't let me be charged with this. im sure that neglect came from me not letting her back in the house after she accused me of abuse after she punched me. those useless dhs workers went to her school and sd told them she feels like a throw away child. she is a master manipulator!
I wouldn't want her around my
I wouldn't want her around my other kids either. Its so easy to condition children that young to say what you want them to. All it takes is for your SD to say the wrong shit in front of your other kids and that get repeated to dhs and boom! Its crazy. My BD2 repeats EVERYTHING she hears at this point. Im surprised by the things she picks up on. BS6 has been pegged as a story teller on the school bus by some of the older kids and they tell him bullshit "facts" and stories and he goes around repeating them to everyone like he knows what hes talking about (I keep telling him not to listen to those kids but hes just happy they are talking to him). Your DH needs to realize if he truly wants to put an end to this keeping the kids separate for now or being right there to hear what is being said is for the best. They may want to do a home check and talk to the other kids....just saying..
I had the same situation. In
I had the same situation. In my case, we didn't get the report letter saying 'guilty as charged' because the BM WORKED for DHS (in my state CPS) and it was a "clerical error" (yeah right! she didn't want us to appeal it) So after I complained, the report came in the mail saying "guilty as charged."
So it went straight to the NYS Child Abuse and Maltreatment Register. Now get this:
At first, Chef Boyardumb LAUGHED IT OFF!!! Like it wasn't SERIOUS!!
He fought me on fighting it!!!!!!!!
I fought it anyway and contacted the county's DA office, the head of CPS in our state as well as my local congress critter. Sent my eight pages of rebuttal with evidence attached showing the BM is a hostile, aggressive PASer and has an agenda.
After about 6 months, we finally got the letter saying the charges were all unfounded.
All three admitted they "lied
All three admitted they "lied to make Mommy happy" and yet Chef Boyardumb went on believing them over me every.single.time.
I just told him if my kids
I just told him if my kids are to be around sd they are to NEVER be alone, my name is not allowed and that if she calls and wants to talk to them she has to be on speaker phone so nothing can be said my 4 year old thinks his sissy isn't at home becuase i hate her. it wasn't the case but it may be now.
I’m thankful I have an
I’m thankful I have an amazing DH who will not tolerate the skids lying about me or BM lying about me. One time BM tried to claim she overheard me YELLING at the kids while on the phone with DH. I never raised my voice. We were in the car and I was right next to DH and I was asking the kids very calmly to quiet down while DH was on the phone with their mother. A few years ago SD was trying to get attention from her mother so she claimed that I was taking care of the dogs better that her and her bothers. Of course BM called DH yelling at him about it and he put her in her place. We talked to the kids when we got them the following weekend and SD admitted she lied. She hasn’t don’t anything like that since then.
Yeah so i just asked him to
Yeah so i just asked him to get her stuff out of the house he acted offended. i would divorce him right now but im scared he would use this against me and get the boys. if he doesn't get her stuff out i will. i hate all of this so much, i do know im acting like a bitch but it could be a whole lot worse.
Appeal it and get a lawyer.
Appeal it and get a lawyer.
^^^ This
^^^ This
I'm so sorry you're going
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Been there with the lying about abuse. It didn't get to this point, thank goodness. All of us steps are here for. (((HUGS)))