BM crisis, as regular as clockwork?
Does anyone else find that the BM in their lives has a pattern to their crises? Ours seems to be every 3 to 4 months. And guess what...we seem to either have hit or be building up to one right about now...lucky us!
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It would seem that every 2
It would seem that every 2 months or so she loses her cool about something. That is when her being nice and civil expires. Luckily she wears herself out. I will always expect the worst from her, her track record proves me right.
It could be BM's way of trying to controlling your DH still. Or she is such a pleasant person she leaves a trail of destruction? Sorry you have to go through this.
Same. It's two months for BM.
Same. It's two months for BM. Maybe the stretches of crazy will get more stretched out as she ages!
Like clock work. Good to
Like clock work. Good to note, the three months cycle thing is pretty common for BPD people.
That's interesting...I may do
That's interesting...I may do some reading on the subject.
When I dealt with BM it was
When I dealt with BM it was like this all the time. I kept a calendar of EVERYTHING, document document document! And I could look at the past events and know it had been just enough time for something new to arise.
I document the nights we have
I document the nights we have SD stay with us. I refuse to do anything else as I only have half the information and my husband should be doing that kind of shit. I did talk to him about documenting yet again last night. He seemed to get it but I bet he won't do a thing about it. He just said that it is petty to document everything and anyone could make shit up, I told him that people on here had found that it made a huge difference in front of a judge to have things documented and had won court cases...not sure if that persuaded him. I try.
I call it phases of the
I call it phases of the crazy. We have the same issues with BM every 4 months or so something will get her going again.
I hesitated when the cops got
I hesitated when the cops got called. I'd never been in that sort of situation before so I didn't really know what I was doing. My husband didn't really want me to call the cops in the first place because his daughter was there and he didn't want her to see everything. My opinion is that his daughter shouldn't be witness to assault (great move BM) and should know what to do if she is ever a victim herself, but hey it wasn't the first time in her 6 years of life so it seems it is no big deal to those around her. I asked him if I should press charges, he told me to do what I wanted. I talked to the cop, because I had tried to push BM out of our house first then she attacked me he said it could go either way in front of a judge. I just left things as they were and BM didn't get charged.
I am under no illusion however if ever anything similar happens again I will be pressing charges, no matter if it is 20 years from now. She had one chance and that is it.
Since then she has kept her distance from me, so I haven't spoken to her and have only seen her about 4 times. My husband has been actively trying to keep us apart, so he does all pick ups and drop offs away from our house and only twice has he asked me to come with him to a pick up. So there is a self enforced restraining order in place in a way. My life is 100 times more relaxing now I don't have to see her.
I wasn't impressed and if he
I wasn't impressed and if he had been 10 minuets longer I would have walked home. He'd received a cryptic message from her to call her asap with no other information. Seeing as we are used to her crises he knew it could have been serious and didn't want to risk SD needing his help and him not knowing what was going on. Yes he probably could do with some more boundaries, but we have made a lot of progress over the last year and a half so I won't complain too much. Baby steps!