The BM is Allowing Co-Ed Sleepovers for SD 15 1/2 with 19 yr old Young Man
And Biodad's response? "Meh." (shrugging shoulders)
Me: "I sure hope the BM put SD on some sort of birth control. . .
Biodad: "Well I know the BM and she'll make sure that she is. . ."
Me: (thinking: this is the same BM who has truant children who are earning Fs and smoking pot)
"Yeah, right."
:jawdrop:
Backstory: All three skids are PASed completely out and neither the BM nor the skids have initiated contact with him for well over five years now. Nothing but radio silence. Biodad fancies himself the "strict disciplinarian" but nothing was further from the truth when visitations were every weekend for six years.
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How on Gods green earth do
How on Gods green earth do you know SO much about that family if there has been no contact for over 5 years?! And why do you even care. It has been 5 years ffs.
Why should she care? Because
Why should she care? Because I can assure you when that idiot becomes preggo, when that idiot doesn't finish school on time, guess who the hell is going to pay for that? Yes, HER FAMILY and DH…simple as that. Pathetic that you say that to her when the ones who are wrong are the loser BM and SKIDS.
And I bet you that as soon as the idiot gets preggo or fails school, you'll be one of the ones saying that her DH has to fork out the money for their mistakes cause they are his kids...
The other shoe can drop at
The other shoe can drop at ANY time! BM gets tired of dealing with them and out the door they go. It's kind of like Damocles Sword. I like reconnaissance so I can know what I'm in for down the road. I just can't fathom not being concerned; he does act like there's nothing he can do ever since day one. Early on, he set the dangerous precedent of just rolling over and letting the BM trample him.
I could only imagine what my father would say if my mother would turn a blind eye to a 19 year old guy having a sleepover with me or my sister when we were 15 years old!!!
Amazing! Crazy witch did
Amazing! Crazy witch did this, we called CS, CPS and the courts and they all told us "that's just a different parenting style"…loser skid was 13-14…became preggo of course blah!
By the way, the story repeats itself…loser was also truant and her mother worked in the district in another school cafeteria…so she had someone constantly change the address DH gave to the school so DH wouldn't find out about it.
Pathetic that you say that to
Pathetic that you say that to her when the ones who are wrong are the loser BM and SKIDS.
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Oh good night.. The BF has not contacted his kids in 5 years.
She has posted about these kids grades, the way they talk, the way they dress, their friends, how they eat ect. Why keep tabs on all of that? It can't be healthy.
It helps me keep on my toes!
It helps me keep on my toes! And it helps me to keep warning others of ever getting involved in stepmom hell in the first place. It's kind of hard not keeping tabs when so much $$$$$ gets slung over that way. Always amazing how so much money can do so little; proves the point that throwing money at a problem NEVER works.
He tried to reunite with them
He tried to reunite with them in the Spring of '12. SD stood him up three times and then finally cancelled as she got wind that biodad was going to get around to the topic of academics.
OSS took his phone number and email, then threw it out.
The School District told biodad that his opinion doesn't count since he is not the custodial parent.
Basically he just overpays his CS in the hopes of peace and quiet.
Why does she know? Because
Why does she know? Because it is better to know thy enemy. I know everything thanks to SD and social media. That way when all hell breaks loose and DH tells me she is maturing and wants to change, I can point out really, last night she posted a picture of her flipping off the camera drinking beer at 18 while in the car....
Better to be informed....
Being forewarned is being
Being forewarned is being forearmed
Yep. Stay one step ahead! I
Yep. Stay one step ahead! I can easily see biodad becoming grandpappy in the next one to two years. Then, because it's NYS, they will probably get another CO for more CS due to the SD's baby because the BM will repeat the cycle of non-parenting with the grandchild.
I am all up in the beeswax
I am all up in the beeswax when it comes to BM and the Skids. BM is very underhanded. She does EVERYTHING on the down low and it is always so that she can screw over my DH. So I make sure I know everything so that when she tries to pull the wool over my DHs eyes I can say "Nope, that is NOT why she wants you to stay with the Skids on her weekend, she is going on vacation, NOT working overtime that lying bitch."
Or, "No, the reason your daughter didn't get her report card is because BM owes 3 months of tuition, NOT because the computers were down."
Knowledge is power.
Unfreakinreal...would you
Unfreakinreal...would you still do that after 5 years of no contact?
Hell yeah...4 years no
Hell yeah...4 years no contact and she still surfaced last Christmas...She will be a bounce back so I need to stay informed.
Wait...You and your DH have
Wait...You and your DH have had no contact with BM or her and DHs kids for over 4 years? Do you have more than one BM?
SD sued to live with BM. She
SD sued to live with BM. She cut off contact. DH tried and tried and did the occasional dinner. So last year when SD18 was having a difficult time, she came back into our lives. DH fell for it and we took her on vacation and it was a damn disaster. Now, she is not welcome again. He sees her once in awhile, but I have no contact and neither does her brother who I am raising.
4 years no contact unless you consider a lunch with DH every 4 -6 months, contact.
You have to know what they are up to. My SD18 will flunk out of college and BM will throw her out. Where will she go? She will go to DH and unless I know what she is up to, I will not fall for that line "She is trying to change"...
TT knowing and stressing over
TT knowing and stressing over all the ex step mess after 5 years OF NO CONTACT, will not change jack in terms of what is going to happen. Why stalk them all the time.
It just seems like added stress that is not needed. Especially since it has been 5 YEARS of NO contact. But that's just me I guess.
Isn't a 19/14 ratio in NYS
Isn't a 19/14 ratio in NYS statutory rape Think Thrice? edit:15/19
Believe me, biodad wouldn't
Believe me, biodad wouldn't say a thing. He is and continues to be scared shitless of the BM. She is practically MAYOR of her hometown and ironically works for Child Protective Services.
And the judges/magistrates/school district/lawyers have told biodad basically to shut up and fork out the dough.
When the BM was having the flav of the week watch all three skids so she could go out (at the time ages 8, 6 and 2) and also leaving them home alone for evenings on end, CPS told us that as long as the oldest child can dial 911, then there's no problem. Aka "different parenting styles"
But when she made phoney allegations against biodad, that got play big time. Also, SD, when she was around 6 made allegations that "Mommy punishes me by making me go outside in the snow barefoot" Of course, biodad came to the BM's rescue and said to the authorities "Oh, she would never do thaaaaat!" :barf: