Dh avoidant and lying
I have posted several times about feeling frustrated and disrespected as a stepmom, infuriated by the fact that my dh (a low earner) is forced to support adults who want their own apartments in new york city, etc.
Last year, we created a basement apartment in our house- I did most of the work myself but we spent about 15K-- the idea was my stepson could live in it while going to school. But he only stayed a few months, because he wanted his own place (who wouldn't) and his mom couldn't stand the dad having any role in his life, at least that's the way it seemed to me.
Last night I happened to overhear that my stepson has to leave his apartment in the middle of the month and is moving back into the downstairs apartment for a few weeks (with his dog) until he can find a new apartment. (He has no job so I'm not sure how that's going to work?) Nobody mentioned this to me at all. Dh is saying that he thought he told me and was sure we'd discussed but I'm pretty sure he's lying and was just scared to tell me.
Also-- for months I have been asking dh to cancel cable, which we really can't afford (dh rolls his eyes every month when I ask for help paying for my little one's after school program, which is a necessity for us to work-- so I tell him to cancel cable)-- but he has been demurring on that request. I think I know why: he knows his son can't live in a house without cable.
Anyway. Just venting.
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I feel ya! I just wrote a
I feel ya! I just wrote a huge post about my crappy weekend (it didn't post
) but I understand. We have hundreds of TV channels, two tv recievers, the internet and netflix. I told DH it is too much money. He doesn't hear me. So we are always late on all our bills and I see one way to resolve it? Cut the effing tv's, movies and internet for a while. Nope, his SS's LIVE on the screens. I hate the screens. Hate em.
1. Your DH is not forced to
1. Your DH is not forced to do anything. He wants to or he wouldn't.
2. You don't need his permission to cancel cable if it is in your name. Do it. Added bonus, your surprise visitor will be more inclined to LEAVE.
3. Separate finances.
But because of child support
But because of child support laws in new york, he is forced to. In fact, he will be paying child support to the mom while the kid is living in our home-- this happened last year when he lived in that apartment for 6 months.
If the kid is living in your
If the kid is living in your home, your husband can end CS.( I'm in in Brooklyn).
Call the cable company yourself and cancel it. There's no need to sit back and wait for husband to make the call.