delusional cunt with unicorns and fairies
I don't know why I got so irritated last night. Here's the scenerio, which of course makes sense to be pissed but I was furious at the end of the night.
BM (the one who abandoned all responsibilities of parenting for 5 years of SS's life) has a visit with him b/c her SS12 who's autistic had a birthday party.
She was supposed to meet SO at 5pm Sunday 2 hours away from where we live. He gets there and he gets a text from her 3rd husband that they are an hour behind. SO waits ... they are 2 hours late to meet him. He is an HOUR LATE going to bed and spends no time with us before he goes to school tomorrow. He woke up late b/c he was exhausted and forgot to eat breakfast.
Fast forward to SS8 comes home. He looks at me smiles with the "oh fuck she's still here fake smile" I say hello he says nothing. LOL Then his dad comes inside and I say hello to SS again and SS says "oh hey"
At dinner SS goes on to tell us how his mom made cupcakes and they only had 2 grams of sugar so he's had total 4 grams of sugar all weekend. LOL SO offers him part of a cookie cake I made for a friend of hours who just got her doctorate and is moving across the country. The child picks up the piece grimaces holds it away from him and says "ah it's been so long since i've had sugar..." goes on and on about the sugar. NOBODY TOLD YOU TO EAT IT IT WASN'T EVEN FOR YOU.
I hate when kids are rude. It really bothers me, I'm about the most polite person on the planet probably too polite b/c my mom would've whooped my ASS and I was taught manners.
IDK why but I was so pissed last night when I went to bed at this stupid lady and how completely delusional and ridiculous she is. I know that it's hard enough growing up not realizing your parents are crazy. As I'm sitting there studying my how to cope as an adult growing up with a borderline parent book doing worksheet pages. I don't want this kids life to be screwed up. I'm 30 going to therapy for a crazy ass mother and having to unlearn all the shit she had me believe.
His mom also made him a "hand sown" arm cuff that looks like something of the Grinch movie that cindy lou's family or a family that owns unicorns might wear. It is quite ridiculous looking. He also said "oh no I forgot my good luck crystal" Yes crystals. Last time he mentioned crystals he didn't believe in them but said his mom did now he believes at least that they are good luck.
I'm embarrassed for this kid that his mother is so crazy and irresponsible. I don't want him to look back on his life and think "am I half crazy" "when will I become crazy" "what does this mean for me as a person that this was / is my mother"
He's small right now. I know the cupcakes sound harmless this is just the start of the bullshit. We once learned that she cut her stepdaughters hair off as punishment for not doing the chores that earn her the right to eat food and have clothes. 
I stay positive in front of the kid but to hear stories about his mother repulses me. I wish she'd die a horrible death in a fire.
That's awful. I shouldn't have such awful thoughts. UGH sometimes I can have compassion and empathy for her as a crazy person and other times I wish she'd just die. Then he can just remember her and stop ruining his life and lying to him about pointless shit. She could stop ruining the lives of her step kids that she "home schools" while only having a highschool education, and stop moving them all over the country.
All of this and crazy BM has confirmed she's moving back to the other side of the country the end of this month, beginning of May and "will not be back until Winter." This is also after she filed for full custody last year wasting everyone's time and money and stressing us the fuck out.
END OF VENT.
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"I'm 30 going to therapy for
"I'm 30 going to therapy for a crazy ass mother and having to unlearn all the shit she had me believe."
^^^^THIS^^^^^ If only more people would do this then the world wouldn't be such a jacked up place. I applaud you. I also do the therapy thing to erase stuff.
GOOD!
GOOD!
" I don't want him to look
" I don't want him to look back on his life and think "am I half crazy" "when will I become crazy" "what does this mean for me as a person that this was / is my mother" "
^^^welcome to a day in my thoughts. I don't know if he can really help it, but hopefully he has good people around him to let him know that just because he had a crazy person "parenting" him doesn't mean he is crazy. As far as what it means for him, well what it means for me as a person with a crazy mother is that everything I became in life was in spite of her and nothing I became in life was because of her.
Sorry she is such a loser. Hopefully he realizes it sooner rather than later.
SO pointed out that he's with
SO pointed out that he's with her less that 20 days a year or so (about that or a little more) and that's only been since March of 2013 before that she was MIA other than at her sweet sweet mother's house. That he's mostly around normal people that are healthy and positive and live in the confines of reality.
"As far as what it means for him, well what it means for me as a person with a crazy mother is that everything I became in life was in spite of her and nothing I became in life was because of her."
Good for you!!!
As I'm reading this book and doing the pages I become exhausted. It is really hard for me as an adult to wrap my head around who she is/ was etc. My own mother. I still defend her in my head, I get pissed at this book telling me my life story when it doesn't know me. Telling me my mother is and was nuts and harmful to me and my health. In the moments that were painful I remember how awful but I still defend her and I know better.
I want to go back in time and be his mom... I know that's impossible. It makes me both irritated with him and compassionate for him.
I was so pissed at SO last night for just a few minutes. I know that BM trapped him with this kid after only knowing him for a few weeks but seriously??? I asked him if he was completely drunk the entire time he knew her b/c crazy just doesn't start off or hide crazy THAT well. JEEZ That his kid's life is gonna be fucked up b/c of this crazy ass person. I hate her. I hate that he slept with this person who's completely insane and had a child and reproduced her genes back onto the planet.
"Maybe you should ask him if
"Maybe you should ask him if he wants to do Crazy Mom Worksheets with you.."
LOL
He knows she's moving, she actually told him herself thank god. But "back in winter" is a stretch as she thinks that the house the RENT is going to again be available after they go and make their weed harvest money in CA. yep that's what the do ... harvest weed and believe in fairies and crap.
EW poor SS.
YOU KNOW I forgot to add that she had dreads and had cut them off and has recently had them reattached to her head. She saved them and had them REATTACHED!!!
The thing is with SS and SO most of the time SO isn't looking when he's doing it. I did tell SO later how rude I thought that was what he said and did in regard to the cookie cake. That it was extremely rude. I should've pointed it out when it happened but I was still in shock and his sugar talk and getting more pissed by the minute as we were eating after his bedtime b/c of the delay.
I'll be pointing the crap out now if he does it. SO thinks SS doesn't do anything with harmful intent and that he "loves me more than I love him" he's said that to me before. So i'm just going along using with the child psychologist told me I could say and do. So far i've been way less pissed. But last night I didn't do it and I wish I had. Interrupted him and told him what he was doing was rude and why.
hahaha
hahaha
The crystals reference made
The crystals reference made me literally laugh out loud. My stepmom totally believes they have healing powers, and as a kid we were not allowed to touch her magical rocks because it would send a negative energy to her body. Everyday I would poke them hoping they would do something, nothing! Darn
My step sister became like stepmom and wears capes, wears fairy wings, dyes her hair purple (she is 32). She doesn't work and struggles for money but recently posted on Facebook that she spent $100 on rocks. Palm to face.
I wish this was made up, but it's true. People are really bat shit crazy out there. I cut this family off, I married into a conservative family and would prefer not to expose them to this. Lol
hahhaah yes maybe they will
hahhaah yes maybe they will all fall on her when she moves
LOL omg yes that's a mess
LOL omg yes that's a mess
as part of my job i work with a non profit to help them train volunteers, one of the volunteers started spouting off her crystal stuff and i said "no please don't take her"
"I used to think that the
"I used to think that the reason the steps treated me with such visible disdain was because their mom was so screwed up that what they really wanted was for their mom to be like me. And seeing me was the constant reminder that it was not the reality."
I've seen so many people say this on here. He goes back and forth between really liking me and then possibly what you said LOL ugh
At first I don't think he believed anything she said b/c she was a virtual stranger but the more time he's had with her I guess he thinks he knows her or something UGH
I hope for the best for yours too!
>>>We once learned that she
>>>We once learned that she cut her stepdaughters hair off as punishment for not doing the chores that earn her the right to eat food and have clothes.<<<
I'm sorry, but I'm just stuck and can't get past that statement right there. So much for giving SM's a GOOD name.
yea she is a complete nutbag.
yea she is a complete nutbag. I made an anonymous call to the county they live in for Child protective services and told them as much info as I could without giving my name or anything identifying.
I asked SS at some point where his step brother and step sister's mom is ... he said "she's either in the p or the J" prison or jail. So IDK if this was a step up for husband 3 or what but jeez
she's not a mother in any sense of the word she's more like a infant in a adult body that goes around destroying the earth with her magical bullshit of destruction.
We actually had to have the talk with SS that we give him 50 cents a day if he's good and sometimes he can earn a dollar on the weekends. He has to pay for things sometimes like if we asked him to do a chore and SO ends up having to do it b/c SS never did it he owes him a dollar or so. If he wants extra toys he can buy them. Since he's 8 and still using pullups at night
I know ... then he has to pay for his pullups while he's still going thru this nighttime potty training
BUT that parents are supposed to feed and clothe children, they shouldn't have to EARN that. and his stepsister and stepbrother don't even earn real money they earn monopoly money and then use it to pay for their food and clothes to their parents. UGH
BM really had this usually smart child convinced that we needed to implement this system of hers at home. This was quite a few months ago.