No. But the skids dont really come around much since DH and I started living together 2 years ago. They haven't stayed the night in a very long time. Prior when they did stay the night, I did notice that they just brought their own stuff- own shampoo,soap, conditioner, etc.

Before DH and I lived together, I never really noticed special shampoos or anything that I think a teenage girl would want, in the skids bathroom. SS lived with DH, so there were "male" soaps, shampoos etc.

I would have had no problem buying stuff for the skids for when they came to our house, as long as they kept it at our house. And as long as what they were asking for wasnt too expensive. I dont buy super expensive stuff for myself... so I wouldnt buy it for them.

In our spare bathroom, I do keep nice shampoos and soaps, etc for when guests stay and if they forget something.

My skids are a little younger so (fingers crossed) the "steeling" of supplies hasn't been an issue.

In your case, you said you know BM doesn't buy things for SD. What if you got her a cute little toiletry bag that fit in her backpack and bought her some travel size of her preferred items and let her take them/refill them, that way she isn't steeling the entire bottle but she has what she needs when at BMs?

When my stepkids were young and came over EOW I always made sure the bathroom they used had shampoo/body wash/conditioner/etc, but it would just be the whatever brand that was on sale and that I use myself. If SD wanted expensive shampoo or hair products, she needed to bring them herself. I'm a pretty low maintenance, drug store product buying gal so the expensive salon stuff would be on her, I never thought I needed to provide SD with brands more pricey than I used. I would also make sure they always had toothbrushes, but personal items like deodorant or razors I expected them to bring themselves.

I bring it up to SO and he says whats the big deal its just shampoo. Pisses me off even more
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Wow...that would piss me off too. That is when you tell him....

"Well I am about to shampoo my hair and since I am out because YOUR kid took the shampoo, YOU need to get off your ass and run down and buy me some right now so I can go about what I was going to do. Thank you DH"

He may think it is a big deal when he has to replenish all of the stuff she takes.

we used to bring toothbrushes and deodorant to mom's for weekends with her, but she'd let us use her shampoo, hairspray, etc. sdad didnt have a say, but we were clean and careful kids so there really wasnt much to complain about.

the boys, when they visited on weekends- we provided individual toiletries, but they used dh's shampoo and body wash. (then again, they never packed anything anyway, not even clothes or underwear, dh was always expected to provide double even tho it started out just eowe.)

now that they live here, it's stayed the same- they've got their own hygiene stuff, but all the guys use the "guy supplies", and i keep my girly stuff in my bedroom.

OP- i'd address it directly with her. she's 15. i wouldnt ask her if she took it, i would just tell her "i just bought that stuff last week and now it's gone. i will be finding a new storage place for my products, but i do expect you to let me know when you are out of your own preferred items, and i'd be happy to make sure i get refills the next time i shop."

I buy for the house. Both skids had jobs, so if they wanted something different they just bought it themselves. No biggie.

My husband used to keep supplies at our house for his kids. It was out of necessity since she sent them over with NOTHING and only the clothes on their backs. Then it all ended up at BMs house: clothes, toiletries, toys. He went shopping every single time they were with him for more than 2 days at a time.

I was actually the first one to catch onto the scam about a year ago. This was back when DH paid double the CS he should be paying, paid for school lunches, and paid for after school care. SD was talking about not having any shoes that fit and no summer clothes. DH wasn't around when she said it. As soon as he got back, I said "what is wrong with a woman who takes $xxxx.xx from YOU every single month and can't even use it on YOUR children the way it is intended to be used." The next time skids came around, they had a new outfits, new shoes, and toiletries with their names on them (snicker) to leave at our place.

Guess BM was ok with just taking from us as often as she could but as soon as it looked like she was not MOTY she shaped up really fast.

DH finally grew a pair and quit giving BM extras whether in the form of money, school supplies, school lunches, clothing, shoes. Anything he gets them now is a gift not a supply. Supplies are covered under CS. Well, I exaggerate. He didn't exactly grow a pair by himself. I set up an appointment with a lawyer who told him what CS covered and not to give her a single dime more than was required by their CO.

This is one of the things that drives me crazy about the skids. When I first moved in, I didn't care as much. But as time went on, I was buying better stuff for myself. I kept it in our bathroom, the skids have a bathroom upstairs right by their bedrooms. The shower head in their bathroom broke, we didn't want to pay a plumber at the time, so we turned off the shower, and they would take baths. But, if they wanted to shower, DH let them use ours, my toiletries start diminishing quick! One day I found the girls washing their doll's hair with my expensive shampoo/conditioner. I paid the plumber to come and fix the upstairs. DH still allows them to use our bathroom, they think it is cool.

I don't think they ever took any of those things home, but, clothing, different story. We had to start checking their bags as they left. I couldn't believe what they were having us buy, because we didn't have it, then sneaking home, on her say so, BTW. Took us a while to catch on, but after saying for about the 5th time, didn't we just buy that? We figured it out.

DF purchases what his kids need while they are here. SDs9&6 are pretty easy right now. They just use whatever we have in the house. When SD16 comes for long visits, DF will take her to Target and let her pick out what she wants. I'm sure he'll do the same when the younger two are tween/teens.

LOLOL, how many of our skids actually shower or brush their teeth while in our homes?

I've never had the skids take shampoo/conditioner, toothpaste etc to BMs. I have had to buy them toothbrushes for BM's house because she doesn't seem to understand that they need their own and sharing with BM is just disgusting. :sick: Since SS14 has the beginning stages of the worst acne in history, I've also bought face wash for BM's house for him. He comes to our house with pizza face, I encourage him to wash his face twice a day here and actually wash his pillowcases and its clear before he leaves. Lather, rise, repeat.

ETA: socks and underwear disappear to BM's though.

I bought for H and me, or the house (groceries, paper products, etc).

H had to deal with anything the skid needed or wanted. I stopped spending my money on her a long, long, long, long time ago.