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Petty but annoying!

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Submitted by WifeVersion2.0 on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 7:54pm

My DH and I bought our current home about 3 years ago. He and BM have been divorced for about 10 years, he and I have been married about 5 years.

Just before this past Christmas we suddenly start getting mail addressed to BM's name at OUR address. The first couple of times I just rolled my eyes as I threw it in the trash. About the 5th piece of mail like this I got, I started getting pissed about it. I have very little interaction with BM and I like it that way! I don't want to see her name when I open my mail box. There's no logical reason why she should be getting mail here other than she's obviously put her name and our address on some form somewhere so that we start getting all this junk mail/advertisements addressed to her at our home.

I've been confined to the house this week after having a minor surgery a few days ago and received yet another piece of mail addressed to BM. So, I search the name she's using and it's suddenly connected somehow on the people finder type sites with DH, Me, and my SIL all in our current city which BM has NEVER lived in!

I wonder how BM is going to like it when she starts receiving mail at her house addressed to me? Starting with the Victoria Secret catalog! Any other suggestions? Anyone else get annoyed by what I realize is a trivial thing compared to the havoc BM's are capable of?

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Submitted by Jsmom on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 8:41pm

I had a bad time with BM so I went to the magazines at the airport and got every single horrible magazine and signed her up. I kept the cards in my desk and every couple weeks would drop them in the mail. Made me feel better. Also signed her up for triple a and a couple of sweepstakes. Screw with my family and I have no problem screwing with you.

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Submitted by furkidsforme on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 8:43pm

Dating sites. NAMBLA as well. Oh, and info from whatever political party she is greatly opposed to.

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Submitted by WifeVersion2.0 on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 8:53pm

Thanks for the suggestions ladies, and for not making me feel like a crazy loon for playing this game! We've got to find enjoyment in the mess somehow, right? Smile

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Submitted by Pilgrim Soul on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 9:15pm

Actually, there is a logical explanation ( or 5) to you getting mail addressed to her. Happens to me too, at the new house, where our exes have never lived, we get mail with both BM's name and my ex's name on it. Couple of times we got BM's bills - now i know what kind of crap she buys and how much she owes for it. She could certainly use some credit counseling!

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Submitted by tessa12 on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 9:40pm

No, no. I have the best -- Mormons. Sign her up for being interested in converting. They will go to her house. : ) And never stop.

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Submitted by NCMilGal on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 10:21pm

There's a logical explanation... The stupid people finder sites link people, their spouses (yes, and former spouses) and even unrelated people and addresses.

I was getting collection calls for someone who lived at my house a while before I did (not the previous owners, before THAT). The number they had associated with him was a number *I* had set up in 2010, 7 years after the latest this guy COULD have lived there. The only common factor was the address.

The calls stopped after I coldly explained that I had owned the house for 6 years and had personally set up the phone two years prior, quit calling me.

The mail, OTOH, never stopped.

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Submitted by WifeVersion2.0 on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 10:30pm

I understand some mix ups, we get mail for the previous owners but other than that, I never get mail for my ex here. I guarantee she has put down her name with our address somewhere. Even if it wasn't intentional, there's no need for her to use this address.

She asked for our address just this past summer when enrolling SS into high school in her town. She's never listed DH on anything before but I figured she was turning over a new leaf and maybe growing up. DH recently tried setting up his online grade access and was having trouble so he called the school. SHOCKER: DH wasn't listed anywhere much less our new address. My guess is she took the information for other purposes.

Like I said, not a huge deal and it's mostly junk mail (coupons and such and an American Girl Doll catalog) but it's a thorn in my side. Not that I'd ever let her know that.....that's why I love this board. Smile

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Submitted by 3familiesIn1 on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 10:43pm

We get mail for both X spouses here too and they have never lived here. Some of it is that my XH and myself shared a loan that was primarily in my name and now he is linked to this address. Now and then we get some of BMs crap too - likely same reason.

But it does sound fun to send mail to BM in your name - lol - I like the victoria secret one.

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Submitted by learningallthetime on Mon, 03/17/2014 - 7:47am

Pretty sure my ex's new GF has done this to me, just be careful it does not backfire - I LOVE random mail, I have all kinds of baby stuff (her dig at me being single) - this I pass on to my new mom friends, stuff about teenage clothes (I am sure there is a dig in there somewhere - sucks that she is a size 14-16, and I lost weight and am a size 6 though - so I use these!), stuff about money (my ex has her convinced I am poor, interesting I am the one driving the new car while they are borrowing one from a mutual friend. I was amazing once ex was gone how quickly finances straightened up!). So, do it but just recognize the ex might enjoy it lol