Overly CONFIDENT teenagers - Advice??
SD is 13 and very nice, sweet, respectful etc...BUT there is this one thing that started happening few months ago...She seems to love to TOOT her own horn ...a LOT lately...Things like I asked her "how do you know that and answer is "Im Very good at computers"....or "I have really good taste buds so I can taste food better than other ppl"...uhhh ohh-kaay!..."My Hair is Always healthy"...and last but not lease "I am a STAR child so that's why I may be different than other people"....and "Star" not as in Celebrity but u know the terms...Star child....Indigo child etc...and there's a lot of other times ...and u can just tell anytime anyone compliments her on anything she just BEAMS!
Now I Know that becoming a teenager is not easy...you get all these feelings...and try to find your place in this giant world....so I'm just wondering is this caused by a Lack of confidence maybe??? U know trying to lift herself up(I don't think that's the case, but I've been wrong before)...Or inflated EGO....is this Normal for teenagers???...Is it a Phase??
I'm a humble person...I know my worth and I Know what Im good at...but I don't go around advertising it! I don't need everyones admiration etc...and ppl like this annoy me!
this also mught be coming from her BMs house....she just carries herself like she is the most important person in the universe....her shit doesnt stink and everything she does should be Bowed to!...so Im sute this has some influence on SD...
So if you have dealt with something similar....do u have any Return phrases I can respond to her with to subtly let her know to get off her pedestal?....as nobody liked ppl like this....I don't wanna be mean but jokingly let her know that Other people KNOW how to brush their hair too lol
thank you!
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Leave her alone. Her peers
Leave her alone.
Her peers will handle this soon enough.
I hope so! yeah, its
I hope so! yeah, its different to strut your stuff at home where everyone agrees w you and never tries to be mean...will be different in high school!
I think you are right that it
I think you are right that it comes from BM's house. My suggestion (and I have been wrong plenty as well lol) would be not to face this head on but a little more subtly. Compliment other people, point out characteristics that are unique about other people. Share stories of what you have learned from people with different experiences, cultures, lifestyles than you. Explain that we all bring good and bad to the table, finding who we are, what is important to us and our values is what makes us unique. Personally, I would be a little weary of any "whitty" or "snarky" responses like "my hair is so shiny" "imagine if your skin was clearer too" because if it is caused by insecurity anything negative could fuel it more. When she says things like "my hair is shiny" it might be worth a try to reply with something like "oh did you switch shampoos, you know who has BEAUTIFUL hair? or it's great to have shiny hair, just remember that a shiny personality is just as important and people who think they are better than other people don't come off as shiny to most"
Thats exactly what i was
Thats exactly what i was thinking too.....when i said "jokingly" i didnt mean to make fun of her...but just subtly let her know its not gonna fly here...ty for your advice!
oh yeah! the "i know" reply
oh yeah! the "i know" reply ....GAWD!! I SO appreciate Humbleness in people and this is anything But...it's Annoying!
LOL, my BS16 loves himself.
LOL, my BS16 loves himself. Yesterday, he gets in the car in the morning and says "I just walked past the mirror and said DAYUM who's that handsome guy!? Oh, wait it's ME!" I couldn't help but crack up.
He's VERY confident and sometimes can be a bit too cocky.
I check him once in a while when I think his head is going to topple him over but for the most part, I prefer his confidence over a sullen teen that finds himself unattractive or odd.
I do however speak to him CONSTANTLY about good looking kids with ugly souls so thankfully, those words have stuck with him because he is actually a very kind and gentle hearted young man.
Your SD just sounds like a mean girl. My SD13 is a mean girl too. It's awful to deal with.
yeah that would be funny!
yeah that would be funny! what your BS said lol...but this is different...I think girls are different in this regard....they just sound Snooty for some reason....like "I'm better than you' attitude
I could have wrote this!!
I could have wrote this!! Down to the BM part!! She stays in the mirror, either in the bathroom or has it up on her phone all the time. Sends pics of herself to everyone everyday!! It just makes me sick!! I too am a humble person and this gets on my last nerve!!
Oh yeah! This too! Speaking
Oh yeah! This too! Speaking like they KNOW everything and like everything that comes out of their mouths is a FACT and if you try to tell them they could possibly be wrong...Nope! They never are...so I stopped..let them believe whatever they want lol
Both of my Skids went through
Both of my Skids went through that phase too, well I think its a phase...
I started doing it right back and the look on their faces was priceless. I'd get a compliment and reply with either "I know" or "K" then carried on. SS thought it was funny and SD was angry but her giving me compliments was a cover up for her bad thoughts or she wanted something. It was intended to reflect their behavior back at them and it worked.
I so Hope its a Phase!! I
I so Hope its a Phase!! I think it is..It comes with teen years I guess
Yep I think so too...its easy
Yep I think so too...its easy while you live a sheltered life among your family...But real world is nothing like that! And thank god for that! Otherwise we'd have a Lot more Blown Up EGOs walking around!
Oh and what's NPD? Some type of disorder?