Fair warning there are lots of dirty words ahead: if they offend do not read this post.

3: Your mother is a bottom feeding, bitch faced, unholy twunt. She does not deserve the title of mother, if I were you I would stop referring to her as such and give her a title that more befits her.

Twunt
Douche
Drunk
Fucktard
Asshole
Bitch (this might be too nice)
Fucking Retarded
Ignorant Fuckhead

I could continue but I am sure you have the idea now. The reality is this: She is jealous of you. You are the mother she no longer is. You have a warm and caring family, a giving heart and your doing everything in your power to make sure your kids (bio and step) have happy, healthy childhoods.

Alcohol has stolen everything positive from this twunts life. She CHOSE the alcohol. Obviously she is regretting her choice but hey... she threw it all away for a beverage.

Think about it... would you throw life away for a milkshake? No? Then why for Alcohol?

It's a green eyed monster and a clear bottle that is talking to you that way. Who is intent on tearing you down to her level because there is no way in hell she can compete with you on yours.

Fuck her.
Lock the door, do NOT answer it. If she beats on the door have her trespassed and for gods sake keep this disaster in the making away from your kids.

For your own sanity: Look up online where an Al-Anon group is meeting and attend a few meetings. You will find useful tools there to help you deal with the twatwaffle when she rears her ugly head.

It sounds to me like Mom is an alcoholic. I'm sorry. Nothing you say to her will make much of a difference, she is so engulfed in her addiction and pain that she doesn't see things clearly. Just protect yourself and remember she doesn't actually feel that way. She's sick. I hope she decides to get help soon.

Seriously? MELON? In Tupperware? Can't you see the stupidity in this?

She chooses to tell you she doesn't care if she lives or dies NOT based on her own life but because you are all-powerful and will people to die.

3LD, she is not worth it. The booze has addled her brain. PM me and I will adopt you. I will be the mother who you can call and talk to without being stupid-drunk. I will love your kids. I will not think you are useless and sure, bring the rug rats over anytime you want.

Exactly what just.his said this woman is so jealous she wants to tear you down so you will say "oh no, no, no your wonderful, loving just the awesomely mom ever!" I know this because it's what my dad and exh have both done to me they do the oh woe is me so I'll build their self esteem back up. When I stopped engaging with that carp it was such a relief. My dad doesn't do it anymore because it doesn't work and that my dear is what you have to get. You do not carry others esteem building package. Hugs and hugs.

I would have said: " melon??? That's it??? If you're going to come over and give me something to remember your sorry ass by, don't you think it could have been more exotic like kumquat or passion fruit?

3LD...funny that right before I read this, I saw what a young female friend of mine wrote on her facebook (she is my DS' age). She wishes she had her Mom to talk to b/c she really needed motherly advice.

Her Mom isn't dead, she is just a drunk, druggie that cares more about getting laid than her kids. So many of us responded that we were there for her to help her and guide her and she has her Dad. It was like ST only not anonymous.

You have many people here that know you, have followed your saga and just want the best for you. Call the cops, get an RO, do anything and everything to keep her away from your precious babies. And keep coming here for support and guidance from Mommies that care about you.

She sounds like she is a drunk with a borderline personality disorder, first step IMO is for you to separate yourself from her even if that means having the police remove her. I have that disorder myself and am trying to learn everything I can on it to overcome it as best as possible. Should this be your moms case which it sounds like it, she needs help above and beyond what you can provide her with.

If I were you, I'd make a call to the nonemergency police number, run the situation by them of what just happened, and ask them what you should do about it. I'm sure they would send an officer out to speak with her and possibly bring her in to be checked out if she is in enough distress or considering suicide. If the police don't end up bringing her in, you will at the least give your mom the message that your not going to put up with her ways. If you don't make that call and simply ask for advice then later learn that your mom did harm herself in any way, that would put you in a situation of living with the guilt of feeling responsible for her actions.

You really need to watch out for yourself emotionally and put your safety first. People suffering with BPD and drinking on top of it are a bomb waiting to go off. Please do know that her condition is not your fault or doing and she will pull you under if you allow it. Think of it like a person who is drowning and you try to rescue her then she starts pulling you under trying to get a breath of air.

Take care of you. Screw her. Next time she shows up call the police. Then get a restraining order. Don't feel an ounce of guilt, you did nothing wrong!