I work with a woman who just confided in me today, some issues that she's having with her fiance and his adult kids. I just listened, let her vent, and gave the addy here (lol). I don't think she's the type to ask advice though. I could tell she was visibly upset after lunch, and I think she only confided in me b/c she was quite shaken up and maybe let her guard down a little.
Given what happened in my own marriage recently, I'm not sure I feel comfortable advising her. I was thinking maybe a few words of wisdom from some of you, might make her feel less alone in this situation. I did ask her if it would be alright if I blogged about it. She said she didn't mind, so here goes....

High conflict divorce and custody battle 7 yrs. ago. Kids PAS'd. They met 5 yrs. ago and got engaged almost 2 yrs. ago. They do not live together b/c of all the BM and SK drama. Definite 'disney dad' theme going on. Kids did not want to meet her so fiance split his time between her and them. She accepted this b/c they were 15 and 17 at the time and she felt like they needed him more. As per usual, the kids (and BM) and their 'wants' always came well before her. I gather this was a common bone of contention over the last 5 yrs. (What else is new? lol.) Fast forward, oldest (22) moved out of state with BM and youngest (20) went away to college. Finally, they were making plans to move in together (his 1 bedroom condo) She has been waiting for this for some time.

Apparently at lunch today, he called her and said that the youngest was going to be moving in with him b/c he just couldn't handle being on his own, in college and working a PT job. College is across the state. FSK tells Dad that he'll get a job and take classes at the local community college. Her finace tells her that he isn't happy about this but, his hands are tied. Obviously, she felt that he was once again, putting his adult kid before her and she was simply beside herself about it. There was no discussion, the decision was made. I should add that this isn't the first time their plans have been put on hold b/c of his kids (and BM BS.) Naturally, I told her what I did. She told me that she is considering walking away as well.

So Ladies, how about sounding off on this one????