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Well as many of you know fiance's kids live with EW's mom. Has been for the past 8 months, but EW keeps the child support check. Well fiance calls me from work and said did you know EW mom's was in ICU from stress. Doctor told her that she almost had a stroke. I'm like duh her daughter just dropped her kids off with her and doesn't give her the child support check. So yeah I would be stressed too. So now fiance really wants to get his kids. He has been saying that he is going to for a while but now its like he really needs too. I'm stuck between saying yeah baby get them b/c they are YOUR responisbility, but its like he wants me to be a big part of their lives as well. I will say this he is supportive and when they are here and i tell them no or to go and do something if they give me lip or anything he backs me up. That's just a big responsibility that i don't know if I am ready for yet. I have no biological kids of my own and I am currently in school to get my second bachelors in early childhood education so i really don't have time for a family. The only thing that we disagree on is that he doesn't want to make her pay child support. Now how is that fair to me. Its going to be my money, time, food, etc that is going to be going to the taking care of these kids. So to see if I can handle this I told him to tell him to get them for a week so that i can see how this goes. In all honesty I really feel sorry for FSK b/c they don't do things that normal kids do like sports, or go to partys. The only thing that they do is go to church. So wish me gals and guys. I am really trying to do the right thing just hope that I wont' get burned in the process.

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put your foot down

u will get burned it is not your responsibility to put food in these kids bellys take them places ect i agree them moving in with you does sound right in you case although i would run a mile at the thought of this . but she and you h need to pay for this not you by thme moving in invading your space ECt you are already sacraficing enought do not let H pull this one on you take her to court really

good luck your a saint in my eyes chuck

life is a box of choclates you never know what your going to get (i always pick the coffe of the box what about you )

Its not free

to house, feed and care for 5 kids - she needs to pay child support! no doubt about it

"In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer." -Albert Camus

Thank you

all for the advice. So my week with the kids started yesterday. Well FSS came down last night. I love "other" peoples kids b/c they are returnable. Plus I don't see their mother letting this go b/c she hates my guts and probably loathe the fact that her kids are here with me this week. We are going to really sit down and talk about it b/c their mother just needs to grow up and be a mother to her own kids. Its like him and her mother are afraid to make her mad. And in all honesty i don't have time for them b/c this fall the classes that I need are offered at night and on M-W i will be getting out of class until 10:00 at night. I will be working all day then going to school at night. The upside of it all is that my job is paying for all of this. Crue I did know that he had kids b4 i got involved with him but i didn't know that his EW was a psycho. His other baby momma has ended up being a very good friend of mine.

Stupidity is an equal opportunity condition.

cruella

i to cant afford my prescription drugs for my heart or for my depression and he expects more for his kids its such a drain on energy !!

yet i jsut have to suffer not for long !!