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What I think about mini wife behavior and why it happens (in part)

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 10:46am

I think it's the age-old attempt to mark territory. That's how we females are. When someone encroaches on our territory, the claws come out. Nobody likes it when their territory is encroached on.

And I think when that happens with SDs, instead of indulging them, Dad needs to get them counseling, talk with them himself and try to teach them coping skills and let them know they don't have to give a flying you know what about sm but must be respectful. And I would hope that all adults in their lives, therapists included, would call them out on their lies.

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Submitted by TASHA1983 on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 11:12am

I agree, we females are definitely like that. Not all but alot are for sure! I know that I am very "aware" of other females when it comes to my FDH. Most men seem to be so damn clueless when it comes to not "seeing" the tricks and wool women try to pull over their eyes. (Still no excuse in my book)

For example, a few months ago my FDH and I went on a dbl date with his long time friend and his wife. His friend's wife was CLEARLY acting inappropriate and being all flirty with/towards my FDH. Everything and I mean everything that came out of my FDH's mouth was sooo funny and whenever he would talk she would be looking at him with this starry-eyed look and I was like wtf?! FF to the end of the night, FDH gets in the car and says "Well I thought that was a good night what about you?" I was like wtf really??? And I laid it all out about what I saw and how she/he were acting and things that were said/done that made me uncomfortable etc. and at first he just didnt get it! But once I kind of turned the tables on him and tried to put him in my shoes and how would HE feel...he started to GET IT!

Seriously, I DESPISE women (I use that term loosely) that act like that!!!! Young or old, doesnt matter! I just wish women that are like this would cut the shit and stay the fuck away from our men and stop acting like tramps to get our mens attention etc...GET YOUR OWN MAN!!!!

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Submitted by oldone on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 11:17am

I so agree with you. I worked in a man's world and often had to travel with men. I knew exactly how to NOT be flirty and keep things on a strictly professional level with out having to deliver a lecture.

Whenever I met a man's wife I went out of my way to befriend her and not particularly pay attention to her DH. One of my dear friends to this day I met that way. Even though I was young, blonde and cute the wives really didn't look at me as competition because I went out of my way to make sure they knew I wasn't.

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Submitted by TASHA1983 on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 1:43pm

I wish there were more women like you out there oldone... Wink

Although I won't lie, I'd probably still hate ya cuz you are pretty and if I saw/caught my FDH looking at you I'd flip the fuck out. LOL (I admit I have Insecurity issues)

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 11:22am

When they hang all over him in public and hold his hands and sit on his lap, he thinks it's because they just love him and he is the world's greatest daddy and they will always be his little girls
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YUP! ^^^^^ Dh admitted that when Stepdevil14 was displaying this type of behavior, it made him feel better about the divorce and "shattering her world" by leaving her mother. He gave in to her every demand, let her rule him and obeyed her as if she were his mother. It was DISGUSTING how ffffffed up the two of them made SD.

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 11:38am

I'm with you Hypo. I have complete trust in DH and know for a fact that the entire Swedish bikini team could throw him in a pool naked and he wouldn't touch any of them because he could never cheat on me.

I'm not intimidated or made jealous by ANY woman. DH knows what he has with me. If he ever cared to stray, well then, they could have him because I would never want him back.

Confidence in yourself is key. I don't need to be catty or bring my claws out with other women. Nope. I surround myself with quality women who wouldn't ever hurt me or make moves on my husband anyway.

Smile Have to admit that after what the ex put me through, having a man that I can completely and fully trust sure feels good and I wouldn't accept anything less.

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 11:43am

I agree with Hypo and RWF. I have nothing to worry about, and neither does he.

And quite frankly, if DH decided there was someone out there better than me, I know he'd have the balls to tell me and we'd get a divorce. I don't worry about it.

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Submitted by whatwasithinkin on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 12:39pm

I know from the time I stepped in to DH life that SD's both were told, Daddy left them for me (never mind that he was divorced for 4 years prior.) That my DD's will always be more important and that Dh was "their Daddy now" and look how Daddy did this for them and did this for you...

So it's no wonder SD17 continues to hike her leg and pee on DH.

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Submitted by luchay on Fri, 06/14/2013 - 4:55am

OMG that's my life too.

BM made a huge deal of how I Stole their dad, how he doesn't love them anymore because of me and my two younger dd's were replacing them etc.

And yep sd(stb)13 is peeing all over the freaking place.

But he can't see it, she's just daddy's girl and likes to be loving, affectionate and helpful....

Yes, because me saying don't wake your father, I'll be back in an hour and am making him breakfast in bed when I get back. And then coming back to find lil bitch had made him breakfast in bed herself was HELPFUL???????