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Submitted by 3LittleDragonflies on Sat, 05/18/2013 - 5:42pm

DH just let me know that BM, GBM, and SD2 will be here tomorrow at 1 (Right in the middle of BD1's naptime!)

Uh... NO. GBM may come. SD2 may come. BM isn't allowed here.

BM doesn't have guardianship of SD. She's a freaking loon. She broke into my house when I was 2 months postpartum with BD1. Then got mad because I called the cops. She declared her love for DH last summer. Then when he didn't coming running back to her psycho arms, shetried to tell me DH had been cheating on me with her during his visits with SD. THEN she decided to up and try to commit suicide IN FRONT OF SD! I don't want this woman knowing where I live!!

DH says it's too late to disagree with it now. FUUUUGH. Sad

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Submitted by Onefootout on Sat, 05/18/2013 - 5:58pm

Is she there yet? Next time he needs to ask your permission. And I expect he didn't this time because he knew you'd say no. Sorry. Fuuugh is right. Send him here, well have a little talk with him about how protecting you and your daughter comes first.

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Submitted by 3LittleDragonflies on Sat, 05/18/2013 - 6:53pm

I wish. I'm too damn nice. It's part of my new year's resolution, "Stop Being So Nice". I've promised myself the next time she screws up (I'm guessing it'll be about the same time I have NB in July) I'm filing for a PO.

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Submitted by Shook on Sat, 05/18/2013 - 10:03pm

Let's see all that's wrong here...

She broke into your house.
1 month after you gave birth to DH's baby.
She confessed her love to DH.
She tried to commit suicide when he didn't acknowledge.
She tried to commit suicide in front of her kid.
And you are allowing DH to convince you anything about HER coming over???

Sorry to say but think you & your DH both have the same problem. I'm nice too but after I had BM arrested for harassment on my doorstep, threatening my life, threatening texts to skid & multiple court dates for a restraining order, there is NO way in hell I'd let DH even have a say in this. No means NO buddy.

There is no next time. If YOU don't hold your ground on this, YOU are also enabling BM to continue this crazy behavior.

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Submitted by Lalena75 on Sat, 05/18/2013 - 6:15pm

Tell him too late your ass and if they step foot anywhere near your home you're calling the cops (if you have a RO don't back down and not do this), or leaving him high and dry and alone. WTF is wrong that he thinks because he says it's too late you'll just bend over and take it like a chump. Stand up for yourself, get pissed get really pissed. Put your foot up his ass hard and don't stop. this isn't one of those not worth the battle issues this is a huge breach of your marriage, your home, your needs and your sanity.

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Submitted by myspoonistoobig on Sun, 05/19/2013 - 12:59am

This.

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Submitted by hereiam on Sat, 05/18/2013 - 6:33pm

It is not too late, as it is not tomorrow at 1 yet. He needs to arrange a meeting somewhere else.

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Submitted by 3LittleDragonflies on Sat, 05/18/2013 - 7:13pm

I've told him that, in an effort to be civil, she may enter my foyer and living room. Those are the only two places she is allowed.

I'm thinking of calling a friend of mine and asking him to pick me and BD1 up after church just so I don't have to be around for this nonsense.

EDIT: The only reason I took out the flat out "NOT IN A BILLION YEARS" is because I found out GBM told BM if she ever tried to screw with me or DH ever again that GBM would kick her out of the house and personally see to it that BM would never see SD again. That and DH pointed out that we've been in town for 6 months and we are living in our own 2 story, 3 bdrm house, which is in a nice neighborhood, and she is still living with her mother in a 1 bdrm house in a rotten neighborhood after 3 years. As he put it "We win."

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Submitted by Kilgore SMom on Sat, 05/18/2013 - 9:19pm

What a dumb ass move on his part. Tell him to fix it asap. He does not have to deal with BM. Who cares what GBM told BM. GBM has no business bring BM to your house. BM is just trying to be nosy. Tell DH that either GBM comes by herself or they need to meat somewhere else. Period its your house too.

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Submitted by oldone on Sun, 05/19/2013 - 10:52am

Please tell your DH that there is a strong concensus that he is an absolute idiot. And that no he does not "win" when he lays down and lets them walk all over you.

I would say it was a unanimous decision on his stupidity but one of those bitches who loves to disagree might come along and post that you should welcome her and then ask her to spend the night or some such nonsense.

He owes you BIG time.