my fiancee has a young boy and i have three (2 girls and a boy). as a merging family i alway want to include them in all my life. she likes things seperate. sure were do things all together but she often like and prefers too exclude us too. her son is 7. her best friend as a little girl 6 my daughter age. when we met i thought the 2 girls would be great friends and would be nice to have play dates. they never got together casue it is her sons special friend. we also were not included in her sons bday party it was only for his school friends. yes she thought of my kids and we had our own little party but it is so foreign to me to think like that. the thought of her child feeling left out would hurt me. but on the other hand she goes out of her way to exclude us. bought up my feelings and it was a battle and we are not toghether now. we are not living togther and i just dont know if there is anything left. its tearing me up! am i being hypersensitive? is she just insensitive? we have a lot in common but completely different in this regard. we are both stuborn and she would never admit to being selfish and i have a hard time letting all the little stuff go. it has added up!