hi all. we broke up back in april and been doing well. this site helped so much then. thanks for all the positive and not so positive advice. some i like some i didnt but it was all so helpful and addressing the situation!!!! been keeping busy and giving all my love to my kids (3). she had one who she though was the second coming.... the imbalance and consideration was sad and hurtful and i could not take the resentment anylonger. we were going to move in together this summer and i broke it up over issues that were small to her but big and real to me. anyway, she is starting to come to my yoga class and feelings are stirring. she looks good!!! also a man was hitting on her outside the studio when i was leaving and it was hard. i am having a huge set back. feels raw more than it did 10 weeks ago. i loved her and her child so much and gave so much. it was never returned... now maybe she sees how foolish she was and made a mistake, idk. but i think about her a lot now and it hurts. she however is 41 and is who she is. she is never going to change. she will always be a taker in a relationship. if we do start talking i will be nuts but again we did love and its hard when but basically she just wanted me and did not think of my kids as much as i welcomed her son into my life and family. i miss her more then when i broke up with my wife. it wasnt as horrible a relationship. we were both mature but didnt see marriage and family values in the same way... it does hurt and she did look great!!! ugh...