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I hate the Monday's when SD comes home

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Submitted by Newstep on Tue, 05/07/2013 - 11:59am

Geez it is the same damn thing every other week!! She comes home with her list of things that she "needs" every damn week. Like we have a money tree growing in our backyard. This week its new shoes and a new phone because hers is "dumb". Really???? she has had that phone for 6 months and now its dumb and she needs a new one. WTF ever kid. Then she is trying to decide how she is going to get her nails done?? I don't know who she thinks is paying for her nails to be done. Just had to vent!!!

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Submitted by princessmofo on Tue, 05/07/2013 - 12:08pm

I hear ya. . . Clearly my dh thinks we have a money tree growing in our backyard also. I'm so over it.

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Submitted by tryingmom on Tue, 05/07/2013 - 12:11pm

We have the skids EOWe, they too come with a "list of needs". It frustrates us as DH does pay CS and BM never spends anything on the skids. Our take is that we cannot have the skids suffer because of their BM, we do what we can. We do have to let them know constantly the difference between wants and needs, they are kids and am sure they feel that they are the same thing.

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Submitted by Newstep on Tue, 05/07/2013 - 12:42pm

Dear god even a BRA!!! Do these worthless BM's have to do anything for their own damn kids!!

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Submitted by Newstep on Tue, 05/07/2013 - 12:20pm

SO goes from feeling guilty and wanting to give her everything to getting pissed that her BM is so worthless. I am done paying for everything for this child so her BM doesn't have too. We just bought her a bunch of clothes so her BM can buy her a cheap pair of shoes.

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Submitted by imjustthemaid on Tue, 05/07/2013 - 1:10pm

Sounds like SD16 every single day of her life. She sends me daily text messages asking for things. Its so annoying. I started ignoring her so maybe it will stop. She should ask her mother who does not pay child support or pay for anything at all!!! Sometimes I tell her to ask your mother!!

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Tue, 05/07/2013 - 1:12pm

My response: "well, if your phone and shoes are so dumb, I'll be happy to take them off your hands and your mom can buy you new ones!"

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Submitted by goincrazy.com on Tue, 05/07/2013 - 1:20pm

My SO doesn't have the balls to say this and it pisses me the fuck off- apparently XW doesn't think she gets enough for child support so everything else is FDH's responsibility. Literally EVERYTIME this heiffer comes over she needs this and she needs that or she doesn't have any clothes that fit....bullshit

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Submitted by Drac0 on Tue, 05/07/2013 - 1:24pm

Sorry, but I burst out laughing at the "dumb" phone. That has got to be a Saturday Night Live skit.

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Submitted by Newstep on Tue, 05/07/2013 - 1:34pm

Exactly!!! Just picture her lounging on the couch " Daaaaaad I NEED a new phone mine is so DUMB" dramatic sigh :sick:

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Submitted by Drac0 on Tue, 05/07/2013 - 1:41pm

My reply: "Well honey, be happy with your 'dumb' phone otherwise 'dumb' phone may become 'confiscated' phone, 'lost' phone or 'Oops-fell-in-the-pool' phone."

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Submitted by katielee on Tue, 05/07/2013 - 2:15pm

SD11 came over a couple of weekends ago and told me she wanted to do some "shopping" while she was here because she had a few things she wanted to get. Um...seriously? This is the same kid who "forgets" to say hello to me while I'm sitting next to her dad at her softball games. Can she blame me if I "forget" to take her shopping?

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Submitted by Bojangles on Tue, 05/07/2013 - 5:19pm

Honestly I think these children just learn to try it on, and between the Dad not liking to say no and be the bad guy, and stepmom wanting to make nice and thinking it will cement a good relationship, it becomes a vicious cycle.

SD number 4 was a terror for this, when she went on a school trip for the weekend she brought the list of suggested items to pack round to our house like it was a shopping list for us. Given that her mother barely managed to buy day to day basics she must have thought she was onto a good thing with us. Then there was the time she was 11 and 'needed' skin care products, supposedly because of the heavy makeup she wore in her dance troupe. Off to the chemist where DH ended up buying her a full set of posh cleanser, toner and moisturiser. And of course when I commented incredulously to DH in private I just looked like a big meany. She was the only one that did it though, none of the other 4 would angle for stuff in the same way, and it didn't make her happy, actually SD number 4 was a very unhappy insecure little girl and became a very troubled teenager. Buying her stuff didn't do her any favours. Sometimes when they try it on you just have to pleasantly but firmly say no, or let them work for it.