100% agree with you.Stand up for this idea.You are marrying him not the skids.

Take a vacation for the two of you and get married while you are away. You don't need to tell anyone ahead of time.

It is very easy to get married in Florida. Just show up, pay your money and sign a few forms.

DH and I went off to get married just the 2 of us.

For our one year anniversary, we did a simple vow renewal ceremoney at a nice nature preserve center and invited immediate family and included our kids in that and then had a party at our house afterwards.

Would this be an idea to some kind of compromise?

I have the "pleasure" of having to see my skid's face daily if I really wanted to. I don't really want to.

So on a honeymoon, no way would it involve children, let alone a skid that would interrupt every sentence I've had with DH. Sorry but I can't imagine a more horrific way to spend a honeymoon or start a marriage. Your DH really needs to stop thinking about a family vacation or you'll have honeymoon photos with Goofy & Mickey to frame FOR LIFE!

I agree with you. No reason they need to be there. My fdh agrees as well lol.

Holy shit sauce... Had this exact discussion recently. I'm 3 years in, "engaged," allegedly. Never had a couples trip. He and SD have had multiple week long trips. Him and I, no dice. If you can't make your wedding about the two of you, when will it ever be about the two of you?

We got married back when ss was an angel.... i wanted a beack wedding in key west. I sorta regret doing it being how much of a monster ss is now.... but the compromise was a church wedding and reception and we vacation on the beach in florida. It was a wonderful time. My family nor hubbys family could afford to go with us to take ss with them after the ceremony. So it all worked out. We agreed for one of our anniversaries we will renew our vowels on the beach. I cant wait I would clarify if its the ceremony or honeymoon your fiance wants sk there for. U both need a couples vacation n time to strengthen the marriage. A solid marriage is important. Especially when sk are involved. I also recommend premarital counseling if u arent already doing it. Especially someone who can grt into the grit of how to work togeher n not apaprt when the bliss is over if sk start trouble. Good luck and congrats!

Agree with above. There is no way in hell I would go on honeymoon with kids - either steps or bios - in tow. We planned our wedding day so skids could be involved in the service and the afternoon party but arranged for bm to collect them early evening and keep them for a couple of weeks for her summer holiday contact so we could have our wedding night and honeymoon kid-free. As it was, the skids were ill so they went to bm's early and missed the wedding altogether. Is it practical for you do so something like that - have a wedding service with them involved and then get bm to take them so you can have your wedding night and honeymoon in peace? Or as others have suggested, go and get married by yourselves and have a family party later on?

Yep, that is our plan, all the kids there for the wedding (my 4 dd's and his 2 s and d)

Then WE (the couple) go on our honeymoon together.

BF and I have been discussing this. We aren't formally engaged yet, but its coming. We want to go somewhere in the bahamas or Jamaica. We think we will fly out with sd 10 spend first day together with everyone else that comes, we'd the second day and then have her fly back with BF's mother and step father. Then she can be a part of the ceremony but we still get a honeymoon.

we 'eloped' (does anyone really use that word anymore?) we 'ran away' for the weekend and got hitched in a small mountain chapel that does that sort of thing. it was short, but beautiful and romantic.

on our 1 yr anni, we had a small ceremony to renew our vows, we included I.L's and skids, and had a nice catered dinner- just family and friends, we had maybe 20-25 people. also was lovely. (only bad part is, we did the ceremony on MIL's front porch- was DH's childhood home and at the time -crazy me- believed it represented and felt like 'home' and 'family'. what a bunch of horse shit now...)

now every year on our anni we take off for a long weekend- that's our time }:)

We are not getting married, but I just realized the other day that my SO does not feel comfortable taking a vacation with just the 2 of us without either taking his girls with us OR taking them on an equal trip before or after. Hence we have never gone anywhere but a long weekend in Vegas or Palm Springs. His kids are 18+ and 23+. He should have NO obligation to them at these ages to take them on a trip just because we go on one. He said the other day that he wanted for us to go to Hawaii, then he quickly said he'd like for us all to go, his girls and my daughter. I looked at him raised my eyebrows, shook my head and walked out of the room. There is no way I'd go on any long trip with his girls and my daughter. Our kids having nothing in common, they've only been together on a couple of occasions and his oldest was totally rude to my daughter (32). Why on earth does he think he owes them a vacation at their ages, they are young adults, when your kids get to that age, you don't owe them anything. They should be grateful he is helping them with school. I guess it's just guilt!