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Submitted by Anon2009 on Wed, 05/01/2013 - 10:14am

I'm sorry if I gave the impression that I don't care about the child in the hospital and the fact that she saw her dad get arrested. I do. She is innocent. But the case worker has to take a lot of blame there too. She failed to tell the BM that the dad is now working.

I also feel the child of the BM who called the police is innocent too. The guy cannot pay CS while in jail. I know that. I just feel that the case worker got a slap on the wrist from everyone here, while everyone got angry at the BM (and I can see why). But this case worker deserves just as much, if not more of our wrath because she did a lousy job and failed to do the right thing by both the BM AND the BM's ex by failing to notify the BM that ex is now working. Maybe if the case worker had done her job in the first place, this would not have happened.

And I also wonder what this guy's wife is like as an ex-wife. Misstress wrote that the guy who got arrested had two stepsons by his wife. This man's wife can't care for BM too much, especially right now. So it makes me wonder about what she, his wife now, is like as an ex/BM.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Wed, 05/01/2013 - 11:20am

I understand that the case worker did a lausy job and yes she is at fault as well. However I still feel as though the Bm could have picked up the phone called the case worker or her ex. The Bm still had a choice and she choose wrong. The Bm knew the kid was in the hospital and still called the police. The case worker more than likely had no idea of that. But like I said before the Bm had a choice and what she did in my opinion was a heartless and spiteful move. I do feel for her kid if the father hadn't been paying but at the same time he had a very excuseable reason for not doing so during those 6 mths. I'm sorry but disagree that the case worker is just at fault as Bm as Bm is the o.e that knowingly had him arrested while his kid was in the hospital. That is the part that I can't get over that some one is that spiteful or whatever the case maybe to that. She could have just picked up the Damn phone to call the case worker or her ex and ask what's up while but she picked it up and called the police it was one phone call that she choose to make.

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Wed, 05/01/2013 - 7:12pm

The thing about this situation is: There is a whole lot we DON'T know about what actually happened.

Maybe BM DID contact the Ex and ask him to pay repeatedly. Maybe she HAS given him the benefit of the doubt. This might be a situation where, like in our house, you hear why the NCP can't pay support, but you see them driving a nice new financed vehicle, and your skid comes home from visitation reeking of cigarette smoke because evidently the NCP finds money for that. I just finished writing up a motion for a friend whose XH hasn't seen her 3 kids in months, and didn't do anything for their birthdays, lives out of a hotel, and is a drug addict. She's asking for support. He's crying in court telling the court how he does hungry most days because he's working a restaurant job that doesn't pay the bills. Little does he mention that the reason he's working there and not at his $33 an hour union job is that he can't pass a UA to get hired on at most places, and last I checked, dope isn't free.

This BM might be a total bitch, but total bitches aren't born. Most of the time, they're made.